possible delusion

Friends! In the name of motivational messages,
we are again & again deluded to believe that
success comes through hard work & struggle only;
that failure is a stepping stone to success;
that nothing is impossible in life;
that difficulties are opportunities.

Public is deceived to believe these wise quotes
as very relevant to life by blowing out of proportion .
The utility of failure, difficulties & struggle
is overrated to the point of believing unconsciously that
in order to succeed in life
one must struggle, face hardships, undergo pain, fail many times…

Far from truth.

Success need not come from hard work only;
struggle does not mean hint for success.
Failure is no stepping stone to success.

Friends!! Learn to think originally…..
finally what remains with you as wisdom is
what you actually experience & learn from it.
Go by your intuition.



ஆற்றின் வருந்தா வருத்தம்   பலர் நின்று

போற்றினும் பொத்துப்படும்
/குறள் 47- 468/


பொருள் : தக்க முறையில் முயலாத முயற்சி பலர் உதவி செய்தாலும் தோல்வியைத் தரும்

Meaning :  Effort  not taken in the right way with right spirit will invariably fail even if many come to support the process.
This indicates the need for self effort with focus & proper attitude .



Kanyakumari-3660_4அறிவுஇன்மை இன்மையுள் இன்மை பிறிதுஇன்மை
இன்மையா வையாது உலகு /குறள் 85-841/

‘வறுமையுள் கொடிய வறுமை அறியாமையே. மற்ற வறுமைகளை உலகம் அவ்வளவாக வறுமையாகக் கருதாது.’

Meaning- Impoverishment of knowlededge is the poverty.The world does not treat other impoverishment as real poverty.





This quote coined by me may sound rhyming; may seem to have some sense.

It is like one of those motivational messages sneaking, creeeping teasing, tossing & flooding everywhere;

There are more of what to dos; what not to dos.

Like this general self-help books churn out pages & pages of advice, telling you, commanding you, dictating you, even ridiculing you with ridiculous statements like what I have coined and shared above.

These statements like mosquitoes tease you wherever you go, whichever side you turn these days. Mobile is infested with hundreds of motivational sms of the same drab stuff circulating hundreth time; open your mailbox there they hit you with pictures & videos…

Self styled evangelists of MOTIVATION & INSPIRATION and also a few claim to be inspired by GOD advice people from roof top as if people dont know anything.

Even the generic books preach as if people dont know what to do to tide over difficulties.

People most often know what to do; people get themselves the know-how of changing behaviour/habit.

The issue is not ‘know-how’ but ‘do-how’

Yes doing what they know is the issue..

People are helpless prisoners of behavioral pattern. In spite of their desire or frustration to change, people continue to be where they are.

Books or advice do not address this issue; only deal with it superficially which does not sufficiently help the person to bring in desired change.

Now the conflict starts within the person, guilt mounts up; frustration hightens..

The person sits with bitterness that the book has not hooked him; the book has not pushed him to take action to bring the desired change. After sometime the book becomes a burden.

My request to self development aspirants is that live life the way you want to live and go by your experience;

If you are angry, express anger

If you are frustrated, let out frustration

If you are upset about your failure, be upset.

You have every right to be as you are;

My request is ‘Kindly do not be overtly deluded by ‘POSITIVEs’ or ‘NEGATIVEs’

Your experience & your understanding is your true guide whether postive or negative.



ASK for Attitude

`When you start asking, the world will start giving’

Does this appear as a tall claim?
Perhaps yes for a cursory reading.
Deeper reflection will reveal the truth of this statement.
Not only when you start asking but as well what you start asking, the world starts giving.
This give and take may not be so simple as that of a barter system easy to transact easy to exchange.
Yet in the `me vis-a-vis world’ context every `my life’ has a deeper and stronger connection with the `universal life’.
Everyday in everyway we give something to the world and proportionately start getting from the world.
In your giving what you ask for, the world starts giving.
Only you decide the price of your giving.
The value of your giving is evaluated by one factor called your SELF ESTEEM.

Self-Esteem is not determined by the world outside of you.
The world outside does not ask questions about the authenticity of your self-esteem; does not ask proof for the veracity of your conviction on yourself.
It simply accepts and starts giving proportionately.
Is it not wonderful that you are given the freedom to fix your value?
It is wonderful. Yet the issue lies therein.
Self-Esteem is nurtured and fortified by this one inseparable factor called your ATTITUDE.
Like ground water silently nourishing the roots of a tree attitude nourishes and strengthens SELF ESTEEM.

For example the petrol boy had the attitude and thus the esteem of an entrepreneur and so consistently he worked his way up to become the leading industrialist in India.
Shri Dhirubai Ambani asked for greater position from the world and the universal life gave the same.

The humble boy from Rameshwaram in South of India gave more to universal life with a high esteem and thus became the honorable president of India.
Dr.Abdul Kalam has the appropriate attitude.

Hence your attitude determines your altitude.

ASK is Attitude Skill Knowledge.

80% attitude + 15% skill + 5% knowledge = 100% success.

How to develop right attitude?

Simple steps

  1. Wake up in the morning. Stand before the mirror. Salute the person facing you.
  2. Then turn around. Greet the world sending good wishes.
  3. Say aloud `today is a great day. I make the most of this day’.
  4. Give your best in this day. Ask only for the best.
  5. When you retire at night say` I wake up to a brighter tomorrow’.

Walk courageously and expectantly to a brighter tomorrow.

Start asking, the world starts giving.

Life is Living In Full Enthusiasm.


Attitude: You Are It’s Due

Sage Narad was on his way to meet Lord Vishnu. En-route he was accosted by a rishi doing penance. The rishi requested sage Narad to confirm with Lord Vishnu when he would get the fruits of his penance. The sage promised to do so. On his way further, another rishi approached Sage Narad with the same request. Narad promised him too.

After his meeting with Lord Vishnu the sage was returning. One rishi with all anxiety enquired what the reply was. Thereupon the sage said, “Oh Rishi! Count the number of leaves of this tree under which you are doing penance. That many years will take for you to reap benefits of your penance.”

“Still so many years to go? Oh god! What a long wait!’’ grumbling so, the rishi deserted the place abandoning tapasya. Narad gave the same reply to the other rishi who was all curious. To Narad’s surprise the rishi started dancing out of joy. The rishi profusely thanked Narad for conveying the good news and also expressed his gratitude to god. Narad enquired what made him rejoice when the other rishi was repulsive to the same answer.

The all glee rishi said, “Oh wise sage! For two reasons I celebrate now. One is that it is now confirmed that my penance is to fructify. The second reason is that it is no indefinite wait. Precisely after how many years I am going to get the fruits of my penance is now known’’.

ATTITUDE shapes destiny
The moral of the story is that it is not what happens in life but what you do with what happens in life that shapes the outcome of any event in life. What we do with what happens is a matter of attitude. The benefit from the outcome of our effort is based on the appropriateness or inappropriateness of our attitude.
A person with a positive attitude says, GOOD MORNING GOD!’ A person with a negative attitude says, “Oh my God it’s morning”. Like it or not, life is a ceaseless reflection of our attitude every moment. Looking back at your life you will find that all your past successes and failures were the resultant of your attitude then. Attitude is the anvil on which your life is shaped; destiny is designed.

ATTITUDE is not a skill
The dictionary meaning of attitude is ‘a way of thinking, behaving, and feeling’ Attitude is mental poise; a matter of conviction; a simple declaration to yourself. Attitude is not an objective skill you can employ at your will Attitude is a subjective determinant of the consequences of every event of your life

Attitude of Gratitude – Count your blessings. Immaterial of the magnitude, feel proud of your achievements and comforts of your life. Celebrate life for the opportunities it provides. Express gratitude to God for His Blessings.
Attitude of Desire – Desire for success, wealth and prosperity. Desire to live life in full glory. Desire for abundance and accomplishments. Desire for your contributions to life. Desire not only to take care of your life but your family and society as well is an enlightened desire. Desire is the propulsion for action.

Attitude of Positivism – HOPE is Happenings Of Positive Expectation. Develop an attitude of positive expectation from life. Believe tomorrow is always bright. Look only for the best; seek only the best; expect only the best. You will be amazed life always gives you the best. Your creative channels open up. Infinite possibilities open up. You are sure to get a sense of accomplishment; find meaning and purpose to life.

LIFE is Living In Full Enthusiasm