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On FEAR

On FEAR

“The only way to get rid of fear is to take action”

Former American president F D Roosevelt said, “Let me assert my firm belief that the only thing we have to fear is fear itself”

Excellent quote; Very wise advice.

Fear is used as acronym.

FEAR is False Evidence Appearing Real

FEAR is Forget Everything And Run

FEAR is Fantasy Eliminating Available Resource

It’s true.

Action cures; action cures all ills.

Yet..

From real life experience you know the real issue is ‘getting into action’

When fear rules there is so much work going on inside our head that we get no time to take to action; we are so much overwhelmed by the preoccupation fueled by fear we hardly have the nerve to navigate to action.

The inevitable statement issued by such people paralyzed by fear is, “ I want to but ……”

This but buttress fear feelings only.

This means you need a push to get into action

You are stuck due to factors that seem to be beyond your conscious control.

This means that fear happens in you in spite of your wish to push it.

You are unconsciously compelled to behave in a fearful way.

This mandates another process that can reach to your unconscious depth and set right your thinking process to express confidence, calmness, clarity & boldness.

The fact is a person suffering from fear is conscious of what to do, but not conscious enough how to do.

This HOW is provided by Neuro Linguistic Program which works with unconscious process of a human and helps him to get released from unpleasantness.

Advice is not an antidote to fear.

A new MIND PROGRAM is the antidote.

NLP programs mind for confidence, peace, and success in life.

You can be spontaneously confident, bold & assertive.

with NLP you too can become a New Lovable Person !!

SELF EFFORT

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ஆற்றின் வருந்தா வருத்தம்   பலர் நின்று

போற்றினும் பொத்துப்படும்
/குறள் 47- 468/

 

பொருள் : தக்க முறையில் முயலாத முயற்சி பலர் உதவி செய்தாலும் தோல்வியைத் தரும்

Meaning :  Effort  not taken in the right way with right spirit will invariably fail even if many come to support the process.
This indicates the need for self effort with focus & proper attitude .

 

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What is special about NLP?

What is special about NLP?

NLP

NLP

NLP by itself is very special in that NLP recognizes you as a whole intact person.
NLP treats every individual as unique.
NLP says you don’t need to compare & you don’t need to compete with anyone.
We all know of ‘Hare-Tortoise Story’.
The hare though in its capacity to run faster lost in race.
The tortoise was not running slowly;
it was running faster at its ability.
So it could avail the opportunity that day to gain victory.
NLP here says the reason for tortoise’s victory is “RESOURCEFULNESS”
Yes NLP says ‘people don’t lack resources, people lack resourceful state’
1. NLP helps you to be resourceful to give your best shot.
This NLP does with a special way of dealing with thinking.
While every other discipline of personal development deals with a subject for thinking, NLP deals with the very substance of thinking for personal development.
Yes by altering the structure of thinking NLP alters the quality of experience.
Thus NLP produces lasting changes in the ‘mind-set’ of people that too with less strain, that too in funny creative ways.
2. NLP does not ask you to share your secrets
By this I mean what I mean is NLP does not ask you to narrate the whole event again in order to understand you for effecting expected changes.
NLP focuses on the process of getting desired ‘outcome’ than knowing the content.
So the client/subject who is already embarrassed by the event need not pour out to ‘therapist’.
The advantage is confidentiality is maintained and the energy is channelized towards getting the result.
So NLP is a safe way for psychological counseling.

Hence with NLP intervention
1.Your self esteem is restored & reinforced.
2. The sanctity of your privacy is maintained.
With NLP you can become a New Lovable Person.

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NEURO LINGUISTIC PROGRAMMING

One of the greatest discoveries of the last century in the field of human psychology is Neuro Linguistic Programming.

With the advent of NLP not only the field of Psychotherapy but the entire gamut of human adventure started seeing the field of possibilities from an empowering angle.

Yes …

Neuro-Linguistic Programming aka NLP is the psychology of human excellence.
NLP is both a science& art.
NLP is the science of understanding the power of subconscious mind & the art of tapping its power.
NLP believes success in life need not come through hard work only. Success is easily possible by intelligent imagination.
NLP gives tools to bring to reality this imagination for one’s progress & growth.

NLP brings the desired change swiftly & effectively, that too in funny creative ways.

The power of NLP is well appreciated by leading sport stars, business icons, and educationists all over the world.

In short NLP helps an individual to realize one’s potential and tap it to lead life in a fulfilling way.

Neuro – how we use our neurology to think & feel
Linguistic- how we use language to influence others & ourselves
Programming- how we set to achieve the outcome we want
NLP is the study of how our mind works.
NLP is the study of structure of subjective experience.

NLP strongly believes that human beings are already endowed with all the resources needed for a fulfilling life.
NLP strongly believes our subconscious mind is always kind, right & beneficial.

All NLP interventions are based on this belief and so NLP believes each individual is unique & whole.

Hence NLP does not decide what the subject should do, but helps the subject reach the desired outcome swiftly.
While traditional psychology deals with “STIMULUS    RESPONSE”, NLP does not concern much with stimulus but focuses on the response as desired by the subject & intervenes only in the process of achieving the outcome.
Hence, in psychotherapy with NLP, the subject can always feel safe & secure without needing to open out the trauma once again to the counselor or the embarrassment of opening out those fishy events.

Equally with NLP intervention either there is the desired effect or no effect; definitely not in anyway any sort of side effect.

In short NLP is discovering the glory of one’s life and its limitless possibilities.
With NLP every day becomes a spiritual romance.

HISTORY OF NLP

  • NLP was formulated in 1970’s by two Americans Dr Richard Bandler & Dr John Grinder.
  • They are the co founders of NLP.
  • NLP has drawn heavily from hypnosis meaning NLP believes our unconscious mind (subconscious mind) is very powerful benevolent & helps us to lead life effectively.
  • All the techniques & methodology depends on communicating with unconscious & getting feedback.
  • NLP also believes our five senses, the input channel for information from the outside world play an important role in our understanding of the world.

PILLARS of NLP
NLP rests on 6 pillars
1)) YOU – your emotional state & level of skill; your resourceful state decides your success… according to NLP every individual is unique & subjective & so outcome is also subjective & unique; so NLP respects YOU( every individual as an independent whole entity)
2) PRESUPPOSITION – Presuppositions are principles of NLP; guiding principles of NLP which are taken to be true;
3) RAPPORT – The quality of your relationship (with yourself & others) mutual trust & responsiveness
4) OUTCOME – Knowing what you want; NLP works best if one knows what one wants.
For outcome 3 steps—1) your present state; 2) your desired state; 3) Process or strategy to reach
5) FEEDBACK – how will you know you are getting what you want??
6) FLEXIBILITY – being flexible enough to alter the approach till one gets the desired outcome…
Lao Tzu says “Rigidity is death; Flexibility is life”

PRESUPPOSIONS of NLP
Given below are a few of the presuppositions
1)    The map is not the territory
Meaning your experience of an event is not the actual happening of the event
2)    If one person can do something anyone can do or learn to do it
3)    The mind & body are parts of the same system
4)    People already have all the resources they need
5)    The meaning of communication is the response you get
6)    There is no failure; only feedback
7)    Underlying every behavior there is a positive intention
8)    Our unconscious mind is always benevolent.
9)    People always make the best choice available to them
10)    If what you do does not work, do something else
(Kindly find the relevance of these presuppositions in your life & apply them for bettering your understanding of the world & your response to it)

Please note it is in doing & practicing one can understand NLP better.

NLP relies heavily on right brain; the creative part in us, boosting its power will help to well internalize NLP