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Confident assertive communication

CONFIDENT ASSERTIVE COMMUNICATION

In today’s highly competitive environ it’s not just enough to be good at something. We have to be really good at communicating our abilities to others as well.

While some of the methods of communicating this ability may be inanimate – web site, email, c v, or letter of recommendation- the really crucial channel is live and human: how we talk to each other.

The crux of selling ourselves is not only what we communicate but how we communicate as well.

How effective are we in our communication with those concerned with our life or the situation we are in? The answer to this question is the indicator of our success in life.

In fact the quality of our life is the quality of our communication.

 

In order for communication to be effective one primary requisite is ‘our confidence’ in our ability.

The dictionary meaning of confidence is:

The belief that you can manage successfully.

What is belief anyway?

Belief is simply a thought taken to be true by the individual

So the crux of confident assertive communication is –

building positive self beliefs –  the belief in one’s ability to perform, excel, communicate, succeed & shine.

Belief brings relief

ALL GREAT LEADERS ARE POWERFUL COMMUNICATORS

All great leaders are powerful communicators. Their power to communicate comes from a sense of mission and self worth. They have a purpose to work for and persistence to get going against odds.

 

What are the ways to develop a positive self belief like a leader?

The first requisite is a positive self concept.

SELF CONFIDENCE IS THE BELIEF IN ONE’S ABILITY.

 SELF IMAGE IS ONE’S IMPRESSION ABOUT ONESELF.

 SELF ESTEEM IS ONE’S OWN REPUTATION ABOUT ONESELF.

 These three qualities are inter-related. Any change in one of these affects or effects the other two.

So a positive self concept is the first pre-requisite for effective communication.

 

WAYS to develop POSITIVE ASSERTIVE COMMUNICATION

  1. Self Acceptance
  2. Appreciating one’s uniqueness
  3. Stop comparing with others
  4. Belief in one’s ability
  5. Being curious to learn & grow
  6. Having an aim in life
  7. Overcoming fear of failure
  8. Learning from failure.
  9. Respecting others
  10. Positive attitude

SIX POWERS of CONFIDENT LIVING

1) POWER OF BELIEF

2) POWER OF RESPONSIBILITY

3) POWER OF FOCUS

4) POWER OF COMMITMENT

5) POWER OF ACTION

6) POWER OF ACHIEVEMENT

 

SELF EFFORT

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ஆற்றின் வருந்தா வருத்தம்   பலர் நின்று

போற்றினும் பொத்துப்படும்
/குறள் 47- 468/

 

பொருள் : தக்க முறையில் முயலாத முயற்சி பலர் உதவி செய்தாலும் தோல்வியைத் தரும்

Meaning :  Effort  not taken in the right way with right spirit will invariably fail even if many come to support the process.
This indicates the need for self effort with focus & proper attitude .

 

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The INSPIRED ALPHABETS

The INSPIRED ALPHABETS

(In the words of Swami Vivekananda)

(Thanks to Sri Ramakrishna Thapovanam, Thirupparaithurai for this compilation)

  • Arise! Awake! and stop not till the goal is reached
  • Bless men when they revile you
  • Conquer yourself and the whole universe is yours
  • Do not merely endure, be unattached
  • Eat to Him, drink to Him, sleep to Him, see Him in all
  • First get rid of this delusion,” Iam the body’
  • Give everything and look for no returns
  • Homogeneity, sameness is GOD
  •  Incarnations like Buddha, Sri Ramakrishna can give religions
  • Jnana –Yoga tells man that he is essentially divine
  • Knowledge exists, man only discovers
  • Look at the ocean and not at the wave
  • Man as Atman is really free, as man he is bound
  • Never turn back to see the result of what you have done
  • Out of purity and silence comes the word of power
  • Perception is our only real knowledge or religion
  • Quarrels over religion are always over the husks
  • Religion without philosophy runs into superstition
  • See no difference between ant and angel
  • The more our bliss is within, the more spiritual we are
  • Unchaste imagination is as bad as unchaste action
  • Vedas cannot show you Brahman, You are already that.
  • We are human coverings over the Divine
  • Xs anything is poison
  • You are good but be better
  • Zeal with faith(Shraddha); have this everything will follow 

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COMMITMENT

Thoughts on COMMITMENT
(as shared from random readings, hence source not known)

  • Commitment is giving all that you have to get all that you want
  • A true commitment is the focusing of energy toward a purpose or cause
  • Commitment is doing rather than saying
  • Commitment is persevering & continuing to pursue your vision in spite of distraction hardship criticism & risk
  • Commitment is not a vague promise to yourself that you will do something
  • Commitment is doing something because you believe it is right for you to do it
  • Commitment like confidence is a special kind of thinking, a single minded sense & purpose that is fuelled by the energy of personal vision
  • Commitment is something you live & love
  • Everything you do is a reflection of your commitment
  • No one can help you overcome a lack of commitment to your own life
  • If you don’t have it no one can provide for you
  • Honoring commitment is honoring oneself