NLP in the words of Swami VIvekananda – Post 1

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One of the pillars of NLP is ‘YOU’

YOU here refers to your unique set of chromosomes, your abilities, traits, perception & experience.
NLP says go by your experience and feedback from within; 
With regard to growth and development there is no universally applicable standard fitting all. 
Each person’s experience may differ and each experience is true from the experiencer’s view.
This space is very much needed for authentic growth and development.

Substantiating this view I quote here Swami Vivekananda’s words

“Every man should take up his own ideal and endeavor to accomplish it. That is a surer way of progress than taking up other men’s ideals, which he can never hope to accomplish…. all the men and women, in any society are not of the same mind, capacity, or of the same power to do things; they must have different ideals, and we have no right to sneer at any ideal. Let every one do the best he can for realizing his own ideal. Nor is it right that I should be judged by your standard or you by mine. The apple tree should not be judged by the standard of the oak, nor the oak by that of the apple. To judge the apple tree you must take apple standard, and for the oak, its own standard.”
(Ref Complete Works Of Swami Vivekananda, Vol 1 page 41)

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NLP says Perception is Reality

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A woman caller complained of son’s sudden indifference to studies
and also of disobedience.
She wanted me to have a sitting with her son to ‘correct him‘
with the help of NLP
I said to the mother that I share her concern for her son;
and I asked her what evidence she has now that makes her feel worried over ‘changed behavior’.
The son is 7th standard and all along he was scoring first rank and
now in the mid-term test he has scored only 50% in Maths;
and he does not come to take food immediately and he has to be goaded.

Upon inquiry I understood the mother has a 7 year old daughter also; 
and of the two the mother gives more attention to the younger child,(daughter)
and the boy is instructed to take care of himself because he has sufficiently grown.


Now it is easy to identify where the issue lies.
The boy was receiving sufficient attention from his mother and
now he finds a changed attitude from his mother that has disappointed him;
he is upset and perhaps his efforts to demand his mother’s attention
would have been foiled  by the dictating mother.


From the angle of the mother son is at fault;
her perception is her reality;
To solve her problem, my role now is to make the mother understand how appropriate is her perception.
In fact she needs ‘correction’ to correct her son.


Like this mother we all carry a MAP OF REALITY, based on our perception & inference
and tend to judge the world based on the standard we create.
If it is appropriate then we feel comfortable and
if it is not appropriate we feel uncomfortable.

NLP says be flexible enough to modify your map.

Those who are flexible succeed and grow.
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NLP says Perception is Reality

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A woman caller complained of son’s sudden indifference to studies
and also of disobedience.
She wanted me to have a sitting with her son to ‘correct him‘
with the help of NLP
I said to the mother that I share her concern for her son;
and I asked her what evidence she has now that makes her feel worried over ‘changed behavior’.
The son is 7th standard and all along he was scoring first rank and
now in the mid-term test he has scored only 50% in Maths;
and he does not come to take food immediately and he has to be goaded.

Upon inquiry I understood the mother has a 7 year old daughter also;
and of the two the mother gives more attention to the younger child,(daughter)
and the boy is instructed to take care of himself because he has sufficiently grown.

Now it is easy to identify where the issue lies.
The boy was receiving sufficient attention from his mother and
now he finds a changed attitude from his mother that has disappointed him;
he is upset and perhaps his efforts to demand his mother’s attention
would have been foiled  by the dictating mother.

From the angle of the mother son is at fault;
her perception is her reality;
To solve her problem, my role now is to make the mother understand how appropriate is her perception.
In fact she needs ‘correction’ to correct her son.

Like this mother we all carry a MAP OF REALITY, based on our perception & inference
and tend to judge the world based on the standard we create.
If it is appropriate then we feel comfortable and
if it is not appropriate we feel uncomfortable.

NLP says be flexible enough to modify your map.

Those who are flexible succeed and grow.
VRnlp helps you to succeed and grow.
www.vrnlp.com

வீண் எண்ணம் – vain intent

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ஒரு பொழுதும் வாழ்வது அறியார் கருதுப
கோடியும் அல்ல பல
-குறள் 337

Man knows not his next moment
On crores of things he is intent

விளக்கம் : ஒரு வேளையாவது வாழும் தன்மையை அறியாதவர்கள்;
ஆனால் மனசுல மட்டும் கோடிக்கும் அதிகமாக கணக்கு செய்து எண்ணிக்கொண்டிருப்பர்.

Strange is human attitude; he does not know what he can do the next moment;
yet he talks of thousand & one possibilities and ways doing and achieving.
These people are paper tigers, arm chair achievers, trying to measure everything in words and analysis;
practically useless; and such people will keep on explaining away even failures as a conspiracy of the universe.

Thiruvalluvar here emphasizes being practically effective than theoretically efficient.

 

NLP for RAPPORT

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All business regardless of industry are created by building relationship.
Tony Robbins in his husky voice says,”Quality of life is determined by quality of relationship”
Success in life depends largely on how well you relate with others.Rapport is the bridge that helps a person you are in communication with find meaning in what you communicate.
The intent & content of your communication is well taken by a person with whom you have a rapport.
Rapport creates a feeling of trust and people gravitate towards those whom they trust.
Rapport helps someone feel comfortable with you and rapport creates a feeling of warmth and understanding
Rapport is simply a relation marked by harmony, conformity and affinity.
Rapport is the intelligent approach to influencing.
Rapport is a good feeling you get in the company of someone like you or you like.
Rapport is a bondage at unconscious level.

Without TRUST, relationship RUSTS.

Rapport building is not a long drawn process.
Rapport  can be quickly established by specific NLP techniques, the result of which is a win – win relationship
VRnlp makes it happen.
www.vrnlp.com

NLP for RAPPORT

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All business regardless of industry are created by building relationship.
Tony Robbins in his husky voice says,”Quality of life is determined by quality of relationship”
Success in life depends largely on how well you relate with others.


Rapport is the bridge that helps a person you are in communication with find meaning in what you communicate.
The intent & content of your communication is well taken by a person with whom you have a rapport.
Rapport creates a feeling of trust and people gravitate towards those whom they trust.
Rapport helps someone feel comfortable with you and rapport creates a feeling of warmth and understanding
Rapport is simply a relation marked by harmony, conformity and affinity.
Rapport is the intelligent approach to influencing.
Rapport is a good feeling you get in the company of someone like you or you like.
Rapport is a bondage at unconscious level.

Without TRUST, relationship RUSTS.

Rapport
building is not a long drawn process.
Rapport  can be quickly established by specific
NLP techniques, the result of which is a win – win relationship
 VRnlp makes it happen.
 www.vrnlp.com