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A woman caller complained of son’s sudden indifference to studies
and also of disobedience.
She wanted me to have a sitting with her son to ‘correct him‘
with the help of NLP
I said to the mother that I share her concern for her son;
and I asked her what evidence she has now that makes her feel worried over ‘changed behavior’.
The son is 7th standard and all along he was scoring first rank and
now in the mid-term test he has scored only 50% in Maths;
and he does not come to take food immediately and he has to be goaded.

Upon inquiry I understood the mother has a 7 year old daughter also;
and of the two the mother gives more attention to the younger child,(daughter)
and the boy is instructed to take care of himself because he has sufficiently grown.

Now it is easy to identify where the issue lies.
The boy was receiving sufficient attention from his mother and
now he finds a changed attitude from his mother that has disappointed him;
he is upset and perhaps his efforts to demand his mother’s attention
would have been foiled  by the dictating mother.

From the angle of the mother son is at fault;
her perception is her reality;
To solve her problem, my role now is to make the mother understand how appropriate is her perception.
In fact she needs ‘correction’ to correct her son.

Like this mother we all carry a MAP OF REALITY, based on our perception & inference
and tend to judge the world based on the standard we create.
If it is appropriate then we feel comfortable and
if it is not appropriate we feel uncomfortable.

NLP says be flexible enough to modify your map.

Those who are flexible succeed and grow.
VRnlp helps you to succeed and grow.
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Often I hear from enquirers to me “will you give a certificate?’ esp. freelance soft-skill trainers insist on certificate;

when I ask them for the reason for certificate, their claim is they stand to gain more opportunities for training with a certificate in NLP.. I wish their claim were true.

In the last 8 year of my claim to be a Master Practitioner of NLP, I have not got any assignment because I hold a certificate; none has asked for my certificate to verify my claim.

In the process of my serious learning of the wisdom of NLP I am issued a certificate also.
I give certificate to those who insist on certificate whereas I focus more on sharing in the best possible way the effectiveness of NLP and make the participant apply the principles of NLP for effective living.

I want to share here the truth about ‘CERTIFICATE’
It is the fact that there is no regulatory body to offer a standardized course for imparting NLP Skill.
There is no standard syllabus to qualify a person undergoing NLP training as NLP Practitioner, NLP Master Practitioner, NLP Trainer or Master Trainer

The certificates issued as ‘CERTIFIED’ NLP practitioner or ‘CERTIFIED’ NLP Master Practitioner are more a mere certification for participation guaranteeing that the claimant has undergone  NLP training course for a particular number of days with the certificate issuing organization or its affiliate.
There are a number of training companies affiliated to an organization in UK/USA claiming authenticity based on ‘’direct disciple/ descendants’ of original founders of NLP; and also the claim ‘the only approved certifying body’.

The NLP courses are good and effective if only the participant makes good out of the course and simply having undergone a NLP course does not make a person effective with NLP.

My suggestion to seekers of NLP wisdom is to set an outcome for your NLP learning and focus more on internalization of the skills of NLP than clamoring for certificate.

Indeed NLP is effective and NLP can make you a New Lovable Person.
It’s how you make it.

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