Quotes of Jim Rohn

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  • Affirmation without discipline is the beginning of delusion.
  • Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment.
  • Don’t wish it were easier; wish you were better.
  • Effective communication is 20% what you know and 80% how you feel about what you know.
  • Either you run the day or day runs you.
  • Failure is simply a few errors in judgment repeated every day.
  • For every disciplined effort there is a multiple reward.
  • Formal education may make you a living ; self education will make you a fortune.
  • How long should you try? UNTIL.
  • If you don’t like things are change it; you are not a tree.
  • Make measurable progress in reasonable time.
  • Money is usually attracted; not pursued.
  • Success is doing ordinary things extraordinarily well.
  • Without sense of urgency desire loses its value.
  • When you know what you want, and want it bad enough, you will find a way to get it.

LEADERSHIP

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Leadership: The Basis for Management
by William P. Fisher Ph.D.We all like to think we have some leadership qualities and strive to develop them. We look at leaders in all walks of life seeking to identify which qualities, traits and skills they possess so we can emulate them. A fundamental question remains “What is the essence of leadership that results in successful management, as opposed to failed management?” At least part of the answer can be found within the word itself.
1. Loyalty
Leadership starts with a loyalty quadrant: loyalty to one’s organization and its mission; loyalty to organizational superiors; loyalty to subordinates and loyalty to oneself. Loyalty is multi-directional, running upwards and downwards in the organization. When everyone practices it, “loyalty bonds” occur which drive high morale. Loyalty to oneself is based on maintaining a sound body, mind and spirit so one is always “riding the top of the wave” in service to others.
2. Excellence
Leaders know that excellence is a value, not an object. They strive for both excellence and success. Excellence is the measurement you make of yourself in assessing what you do and how well you do it. Success is an external perception that others have of you.

3. Assertiveness
Leaders possess a mental and physical intensity that causes them to seek control, take command, assume the mantle of responsibility and focus on the objective(s) . Leaders do not evidence self-doubt as they are comfortable within themselves that what they are doing is right which, in turn, gives them the courage to take action.4. Dedication
Leaders are dedicated in mind, body and spirit to their organization  and to achievement. They are action-oriented, not passive, and prefer purposeful activity to the status quo. They possess an aura or charisma that sets them apart from others with whom they interact,
always working in the best interests of their organization.5. Enthusiasm
Leaders are their own best cheerleaders on behalf of their organization and their people. They exude enthusiasm and instill it in others to the point of contagion. Their style may be one of poise, stability, clear vision and articulate speech, but their bristling enthusiasm underscores their every waking moment.6. Risk Management
Leaders realize that risk taking is part of their management perch. They manage risk rather than letting it manage them, knowing full well there are no guaranteed outcomes, no foregone conclusions, no pre-ordained results when one is dealing with the future. Nonetheless,  they measure risk, adapt to it, control it and surmount it.7. Strength
Leaders possess an inner fiber of stamina, fortitude and vibrancy that gives them a mental toughness, causing them to withstand interruption,  crises and unforeseen circumstances that would slow down or immobilize most people. Leaders become all the more energized in the face of surprises.

8. Honor
Leaders understand they will leave a legacy, be it good, bad or indifferent. True leaders recognize that all their relationships and actions are based on the highest standards of honor and integrity. They do the right things correctly, shun short-term improper expediency and set the example for others with high-mindedness,  professional bearing and unassailable character.

9. Inspiration
Leaders don’t exist without followers. People will follow leaders who inspire them to reach beyond the normal and ordinary to new levels of accomplishment, new heights of well-being and new platforms for individual, organizational and societal good. Inspiration is what
distinguishes a leader from a mere position holder, as the leader can touch the heart, mind and soul of others.

10.Performance
At the end of the day, leader/managers rise or fall on the most critical of all measurements – their performance. Results come first, but the way in which results are achieved is also crucial to sustaining a leader’s role. Many “dictators” don’t last despite results and many “charismatics” don’t last despite personal charm.

 
 Putting the ten elements together spell LEADERSHIP!
Always remember, if you want to develop a leadership quality act as though you already possess it![About the Author: William P. Fisher, Ph.D., a member of Cayuga Hospitality Advisors, is the Darden Chair in the Rosen College of Hospitality Management at the University of Central Florida in Orlando.]

Qualities of a professional

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10 things that define a true professional

By Alan Norton,

Takeaway: You may be a brilliant developer, a highly skilled net admin, or a crackerjack DBA — but if you’re unprofessional, your career is likely to fall short. Alan Norton offers some attributes to strive for.

The term professional is thrown around quite a bit these days, perhaps too much. I do it myself. But what exactly does it mean to be a professional? As you read through the items below, consider how you compare with each trait.

1: Put customer satisfaction first

Understanding and satisfying your customer’s needs are the cornerstones of a successful business. Do what is necessary to meet those needs. After all, without the customer, there is no professional.

You may not view those you work with as your customers, but in many cases, they are. I remember when one of my managers perceived that I was overly stressed. He pulled me aside and sat me down in his office where he told me stories and jokes for the better part of half an hour. He recognized my needs and acted accordingly.

Professionals identify and satisfy their customer’s needs.

2: Make expertise your specialty

The very word professional implies that you are an expert. Technical competence is essential in IT.

Become an expert in the skills and tools necessary to do your job.

Always perform to the best of your abilities.

Keep your knowledge up to date.

Professionals know their trade.

3: Do more than expected

Professionals aren’t bound by a time clock. They are given wide latitude in their daily self-management. They are expected to manage their time and work habits. Don’t abuse the privilege. If you take an hour for personal needs, give back two hours.

The reality is that professionals are expected to exceed the standard 40-hour workweek. There are times when you may be asked to work weekends. You may have to forego a vacation or work 12-hour days to complete an important project. All are part of the job description of most professional positions.

Professionals are expected to produce results. Strive to complete deliverables before their due dates and under budget.

Professionals meet or exceed expectations whenever possible.

4: Do what you say and say what you can do

This is one of my favorite sayings especially in view of the fact that talking the talk is so prevalent and walking the walk so rare in this age of sound bites. You should “engage brain” before speaking — can you really do what you are about to say? If you can’t, the wizard behind the curtain will eventually be revealed and hard-earned trust can be lost.

Professionals deliver on promises made.

5: Communicate effectively

I go out of my way to patronize a dentist who has excellent communication skills. He takes the time to explain the available options, make recommendations, state the total costs, and promise a date when the work can be completed. I then feel empowered to make the right decisions.

I recently ordered Internet and phone service from the cable company. I told the salesman that the existing cable had been ripped out during a landscaping project. Perhaps I wasn’t clear or perhaps the salesman wasn’t listening — it doesn’t really matter. The message didn’t get through and the wrong person was sent to do the installation. As a result, Qwest, not the cable company, got my business. Not only did the commissioned salesman lose his sale, he and his company both looked unprofessional in my eyes.

Resist the urge to blame the customer when communication goes awry. Effective communication is ultimately your responsibility — not your customer’s.

Whether verbal or written, professionals communicate clearly, concisely, thoroughly, and accurately.

6: Follow exceptional guiding principles

Appreciate and support those you work with. Practice good manners and proper etiquette. Have high ethical and moral standards. Be honest and fair in all of your dealings with others. Obey the law. These may sound like the attributes of a Boy Scout, but they are basic values that all professionals should follow. Many companies have a document that outlines their operating principles. Have you read yours?

Professionals adhere to high values and principles.

7: Praise your peers not yourself

Respect and acknowledge the talents of your peers. There is nothing more unprofessional and self-serving than telling others how wonderful you are.

Professionals are humble and generous in their praise of others.

8: Share your knowledge

When I was hired at Hughes Aircraft, a second person with similar skills was hired with me. It didn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out that one of us wasn’t going to survive. The competitive nature of the situation was palpable. I am no stranger to the belief that it is not in your best interest to share your knowledge with your associates, AKA the competition.

It is easy to find yourself in that comfortable place with “unique” knowledge. If you are a hoarder of information and are of the opinion that all of the nuts you have squirreled away grant you immutable job security, think again. The harsh reality is that nobody is irreplaceable.

Information isn’t a limited resource. Contrary to what some might think, your mind won’t be emptied by giving away kernels of wisdom or experience. Think of knowledge as an ocean of facts and not a stream of data. It is possible to share what you know and still keep one step ahead of the competition — simply apply yourself and learn something new daily.

Professionals help their peers and are respected for doing so.

9: Say thank you

I always tried to find a way to thank others for their help. When their help was above and beyond the call of duty, I would buy them a Coke – a testament to the marketing power of Madison Avenue and Mean Joe Greene.

The items I value the most in my personnel file from Hughes Aircraft are two AVOs (Avoid Verbal Orders memos) to my manager from frontline employees. The AVOs thanked me for the support I provided that helped them do their job better.

Silly me — what was I thinking? I was sharing a Coke when I should have been sharing my thanks in a printed internal document to the employee’s manager.

Professionals thank others in a meaningful way that most benefits the recipient.

10: Keep a smile on your face and the right attitude in your heart

This has been the hardest item for me to do consistently over my working years. I believed I was lying to myself and the world by smiling when I was miserable or unhappy with an ongoing issue at work.

I now realize it’s not dishonest to be pleasant when you are having one of those lousy days. It is in fact thoughtful to care about how your attitude affects those you interact with. Share your unhappiness with your manager only. “Share the misery” is not the mark of a professional.

Professionals are pleasant even during trying times.

The final word

Working with professionals is a pleasure, and I have been fortunate to work with some truly exemplary ones. There have been a few who liked to be treated as professionals without having to work and act like one.

You don’t have to look any further than the medical profession to see examples of true professionals. Think back upon those doctors you’ve liked the most and model your professionalism after theirs.

So, how do you measure up? Don’t feel bad if you need some work in one or more areas. Demeanor that is less than professional can lead to an image problem for you and your company. Negative images are hard to shake. Recognize any shortcomings you might have and begin working on your professional image today.

About Alan Norton

Alan has worked at companies like Hughes Aircraft and CSC, where he developed client/server-based applications. Alan is currently semi-retired and starting a new career as a writer for TechRepublic.

Alan Norton began using PCs in 1981, when they were called microcomputers. He has worked at companies like Hughes Aircraft and CSC, where he developed client/server-based applications. Alan is currently semi-retired and starting a new career as a writer for TechRepublic.

 

Earl Nightingale Thoughts

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Earl Nightingale thoughts

 

  • You become what you think about
  • Success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal
  • Your world is a living expression of how you are using and have used your mind
  • A person needs to chip away everything that does not look like the person he or she most wants to become
  • For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction as Sir Issac Newton taught us in physics and the same rule operates unfailingly in our lives
  • Life doesn’t care whether we are rich or poor, sick or well, strong or weak. It is impartial and rigidly fair.
  • We have, we will always have, exactly what we earn: no more, no less
  • Our attitude towards life determines life’s attitude towards us.

Earl NightingaleEarl Nightingale (March 12, 1921 – March 28, 1989) was an American Motivational Speaker  and author, known as the “Dean of Personal Development.

என்.எல்.பி என்றால் என்ன? ( what is NLP?)

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என்.எல்.பி என்றால் என்ன?

NLP

NLP in Tamil

என் எல் பி என்பது நியூரோ லிங்விஸ்டிக் ப்ரொக்ரம் என்பதன் சுருக்கம்.

இந்த நீளமான பெயரை சொல்வதைவிட, சுருக்கமாக என்எல்பி என்று சொல்வது எளிமையாக இருப்பதால் அப்படி சொல்லிப் பழகிவிட்ட காரணத்தால், மக்கள் என்எல்பி என்றால்தான் உடனே புரிந்து கொள்கிறார்கள்.

இந்த பெயர் நீளமாகவும் வித்தியாசமாகவும் இருப்பதாலேயே மக்கள் மனதில் ஒரு ஈர்ப்பு உண்டாகிறது.

ஊக்கப்பயிற்சி, உளவியல் சிகிச்சை என்று அனைத்து வழிகளையும் உள்ளடக்கி ஆழமான விரிவான வழிமுறை ஒன்றை உலகுக்கு வழங்கும் பேரார்வத்தில் இதன் நிறுவனர்கள் நீளமான பெயரை சூட்டிவிட்டார்கள்.

  • பெயர் நீளமாக இருந்தாலும் என்.எல்.பி-யை புரிந்து கொள்வது எளிது.
  • பயிற்சிகளை செய்வது சுவாரஸ்யமானது.
  • நீங்கள் இருக்கும் நிலையிலிருந்து உங்களை பலப்படுத்தும்.
  • நீங்கள் விரும்பும் மாற்றத்தை ஏற்படுத்த  வழி காட்டும்.
  • விரும்பிய பலனை விரைவில் கிடைக்க வழி வகுக்கும்.
  • உங்களை நீங்களே இயல்பாக ஏற்றுக்கொள்ள வைக்கும்.
  • சிந்தனை,சொல்,செயலில் ஒரு திடம் ஏற்பட உதவும்.
  • ஆக்கபூர்வமான பார்வை, அணுகுமுறை கூடும்.
  • மனதில் மகிழ்ச்சி இயல்பாக குடியிருக்கும்.
  • பிறரோடு இணக்கமாக இருக்க வைக்கும்
  • நம் கடந்த கால கசப்புகளை கரைக்கும்

மொத்தத்தில் துணிவுடனும், தெளிவுடனும், நல்ல வண்ணம் மண்ணில் வாழ வழி சொல்லிக்கொடுக்கும்.

 

நியூரோ என்பது மனதையும், அதன் இயக்கத்தையும் குறிக்கிறது. பார்த்தல், கேட்டல், நுகர்தல், சுவைத்தல், முகர்தல் என்ற ஐந்து புலன்களால் உலகை உணர்கிறோம். இந்த உணர்வுகளை சுமந்து செல்லும் நரம்புகளை கருத்தில் கொண்டு ‘நியூரோ’ என்ற சொல் சேர்க்கப்பட்டு இருக்கிறது. என்றாலும் உடலின் நரம்பு மண்டல இயக்கத்தைப் பற்றிய முழுமையான படிப்பு இல்லை.

இந்த உலகை புலனுணர்வால் அறிகிறோம்.புலனுணர்வுகள் மூளையைச் சென்றடைந்ததும் எண்ணங்களாக உருவெடுக்கின்றன. எண்ண உருவாக்கம் உடனடியாக உடல், உணர்ச்சிகள், நடத்தை ஆகியவற்றின்மீது தாக்கத்தை ஏற்படுத்துகின்றது.

அதனால்தான் மனத்தின் இயக்கத்தை குறிக்கும் விதமாக நியூரோ என்ற சொல் பயன்படுத்தப்படுகிறது.

 

லிங்விஸ்டிக் என்பது, நமது அனுபவத்தை எப்படி மொழியில் வடிக்கிறோம், பிறரோடு பறிமாறிக்கொள்கிறோம் என்பதைக் குறிக்கிறது.

மேலும் நமது சொற்பிரயோகம் எந்தளவு நம் அனுபவத்தின்மீது தாக்கத்தை ஏற்படுத்துகிறது என்பதையும் என்.எல்.பி கவனிக்கிறது.

அனுபவம்      =      மொழிதல்

சொல்வன திருந்தச் சொன்னால் அனுபவத்தின் தரமும் கூடுகிறது என்று என்.எல்.பி சொல்கிறது.

 

’ப்ரொக்ரமிங்’ என்பது அனுபவத்தை மொழிப்படுத்தி, நடத்தை மூலம் வெளிப்படுத்தும் முறையைக் குறிக்கிறது. நாம் புரிந்துகொள்ளும் விதம், முடிவெடுக்கும் பாங்கு, பிரச்சனைகளுக்கு தீர்வு காணும் முறை ஆகியவற்றுக்கு நாம் கடைபிடிக்கும் வழிமுறைக்கு ’ப்ரொக்ரமிங்’ எனலாம்.

ப்ரொக்ரமிங் என்ற சொல் மென்பொருள் துறையிலிருந்து பெறப்பட்டுள்ளது

மூளை திடப்பொருள் என்றால், என்.எல்.பி மென்பொருள் ஆகும்.

 

சுருக்கமாக சொன்னால்,

நியூரோ       என்பது      சிந்தனை;

லிங்விஸ்டிக்  என்பது      சொல்

ப்ரொக்ரமிங்  என்பது       செயல்.

எனவே தினசரி மக்கள் எப்படி சிந்திக்கிறார்கள், பேசுகிறார்கள், செயல்படுகிறார்கள் என்பதன் தொகுப்பே என்.எல்.பி எனலாம். எந்த ஒரு செயலையும் திறம்பட செய்வதற்கான வழிகளை என்.எல்.பி. தந்து உதவுகிறது சிந்தனை, சொல் செயல் ஆகியவற்றை முறைப்படுத்தி வைக்க என்.எல்.பி. உதவுகிறது. ஆக்கபூர்வமான அணுகுமுறைக்கு வழி வகுக்கிறது. நினைத்ததை அடைய கூடுதல் திறன் தருகிறது.

அதனால் நடைமுறை வாழ்க்கையின் நடத்தைகளில்தான் என்.எல்.பி-யின் வேர்கள் பின்னியிருக்கின்றன. வெறும் ஆராய்ச்சிக் கட்டுரைபோல் அரங்குகளில் பகிர்ந்து கொள்ளும் விஷயமாக மட்டும் இல்லை.

எப்படி ஒருவர் சிறப்பாக உலகை உணர முடியும், எப்படி அனுபவத்தை மொழியால் விளக்கமுடியும், சைகையால் உணர்த்த முடியும், எப்படி தனது நடத்தையை, செயல்களை, செப்பனிட முடியும் என்பதற்கு என்.எல்.பி பெரிதும் உதவுகிறது.

எனவே என்.எல்.பி என்றால் என்ன ?

நடைமுறை வாழ்க்கையை நல்வழிப்படுத்தும் ஒரு வழிமுறை என்.எல்.பி எனலாம்.

வெளி உலகிலிருந்து தகவல்கள் புலன்கள் மூலம் உள்ளே நுழைந்து மூளையை சென்றடைகின்றன. அங்கு அவைகள் அறியப்பட்டு, சொல்லுக்கு  செயலுக்கு வித்திடப்படுகின்றன. புலன்களால் அறியப்பட்டு மொழியப்படுவதால் என்.எல்.பி-யை “ஐம்புலஅறிவு” என்றும் சொல்லலாம்.

அல்லது புலன்மொழித்திட்டம் என்று மொழிபெயர்க்கலாம்

 

என்.எல்.பி வறையறை(DEFINITION)

விஞ்ஞானமும் கலையும் ஒருங்கிணைந்த களஞ்சியத்தை ஒரு கோப்பைக்குள் அடைத்துவிட முடியாதுதான்.

என்றாலும் பல்வேறு நபர்கள் என்.எல்.பி-யை பல்வேறு கோணங்களில் புரிந்து கொண்டுள்ளனர்.பலப்பல பலன்களும் பெற்றுள்ளனர். அதனால் வறையறை என்பதும் பல வகைப்பட்டது.

என்.எல்.பி என்பது—

v  மேன்மை தரும் கலையும் விஞ்ஞானமும்

v  மனத்துக்கான சுய வழிகாட்டி

v  மூளையின் மென்பொருள்

v  மாறாத சிறப்புடன் தொடர்ந்து செயல்படச் செய்யும் சக்தி

v  ஆக்க சக்திகளை முறையான வழிகளில் பயன்படுத்துவதற்கான கையேடு

v  உள்ளார்ந்த அனுபவத்தின் வெளிப்படையான ஆய்வு

v  மனித இனத்தின் மீது தீராத ஆர்வம் கொண்ட மனப்பான்மையுடன் தொடர்யுக்திகளை தரும் வழிமுறை (ரிச்சார்ட் பாண்ட்லர்)

v   உலக நடைமுறையைக் கண்டறிந்து, பயன்படுத்துவதற்கு விரைவான வழிமுறைகளைக் கற்றுத் தருவது என்.எல்.பி (ஜான் கிரெண்டர்)

v  பலனளிக்கும் அனைத்துமே என்.எல்.பி ( ராபர்ட் டில்ட்)

 

ஆழ்மனஅற்புதத்தைஅள்ளித்தரும்அக்ஷயபாத்திரம்என்.எல்.பி  என்பது நான் தரும் விளக்கம்.

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என்.எல்.பி-யால் யார் பயனடையலாம்?

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என்.எல்.பி யால் யார் பயன் பெறலாம்? 

ª       மனிதனாய்ப் பிறந்த ஒவ்வொருவருமே பயன் பெறலாம்

ª       பிரச்சனைகள் உள்ளவர்கள் என்று மட்டுமின்றி உடல் மன ஆரோக்கியத்துடன் உள்ளவர்களும் பயன் பெறலாம்

ª       தேவையற்ற பழக்கங்களுக்கு அடிமை ஆனோர், யாரும் பயன் பெறலாம்.

ª       வசீகரிக்கும் பேச்சுக் கலையை வளர்த்துக்கொள்ள விரும்புவோர்,

ª       நட்பு, சொந்தங்களோடு நல்லுறவு கொள்ள விரும்புவோர்,

ª       தன்னைத் தான் மேம்படுத்திக் கொள்ள விரும்புவோர்

ª       கடந்த கால கசப்புகளின் நினைவுகளிலிருந்து மீள விரும்புவோர்

ª       நடப்பு வாழ்க்கையின் நல்ல விஷயங்களை முறையாகப் பயன் படுத்தி முன்னேற விரும்புவோர்

ª       ஒரு அழகிய எதிர்காலத்தை அமைக்க ஆசைப்படுவோர்

பெற்றோர்கள் – பெற்றோர்கள் சிந்தனைப் பாங்கு சிந்தனைத் திறன், சிந்தனையின் சாத்தியங்களை புரிந்து கொள்வதால், பிள்ளைகளோடு ஆக்கபூர்வமாக உறவாடி, அவர்களின் நம்பிக்கையை பெற்று நல்ல வழிகாட்டியாக அமைய முடியும். குடும்பத்தில் உறவு இன்னும் நெருக்கமாக ஆகும்.

பயிற்றுனர்கள், ஆசிரியர்கள் – மாணவர்களோடு இணக்கமாக இருப்பது எப்படி? மாணவர்கள் கற்கும் முறை உள்வாங்கும் முறை ஆகியவற்றை அறிந்து வகுப்புகளை நடத்தலாம்,

மாணவர்கள் – கற்கும் முறை, நினைவாற்றல் பயிற்சி, விருப்பமில்லா பாடத்தில் விருப்பம் ஏற்படுத்துதல், தேர்வு பயம் போக்கி அதிக மதிப்பெண் பெற வழி செய்தல் என என்.எல்.பி உதவும்

மனநல ஆலோசகர்கள் : என்.எல்.பி ஆற்றுப்படுத்தும் முறை பாதுகாப்பானது. பிரச்சனையை தோண்டி ஆராய வேண்டியதில்லை. பிரச்சனை உள்ளவருக்கு தீர்வை சொல்லும் வழிகளை சொல்கிறது.

எனவே மன நல ஆலோசக்கர்களும் தங்களின் மன நலனை உற்சாகத்தை இழக்காமல் தக்க வைத்து கொள்ள் முடியும். சிக்கலுக்கான தீர்வையும் விரைவில் தரும்.

உடல் நல மருத்துவர்கள் —   நோயுற்று வருவோரின் உள்ளப்பாங்கையும் புரிந்து கொண்டு, இணக்கமாக இருந்து நோய்க்கான தீர்வை பக்குவமாக எடுத்து சொல்ல வழி சொல்லும்.

வியாபாரிகள், நிர்வாகிகள் – உற்சாக மனநிலையில் தொழிலை கவனிக்கும் சக்தி, வாடிக்கையளர்கள் சக ஊழியர்களுடன் சகஜமாக இருத்தல்,இணக்கமாக இருத்தல், புரியும்படி பேசுதல், தெளிவாக் கட்டளை பிறப்பித்தல்,திட்ட மிட்டு செயல் படும் திறன், இலக்குகளை எளிதில் அடையும் சூசகம் என பல நல்ல அம்சங்களை என்.எல்.பி தருகிறது

 விற்பனையாளர்கள்—வாடிக்கையளர்களின் வாங்கும் ஆர்வம், முடிவெடுக்கும் பாங்கு, ஆகியவற்றை அறிய முடியும், வாடிக்கையளர்களை எளிதில் நட்புறவு கொள்ள செய்ய முடியும்.
’நமக்கு நாமே’ – என்.எல்.பி மனத்துக்கான சுய வழிகாட்டி. எனவே என்.எல்.பி உத்திகளை தானே பயிற்சி செய்து வாழ்வின் சிக்கல்களுக்கு விடை கண்டுபிடிக்க முடியும். ஒரு தனி நபர் சுய சார்பில் சிறந்து விளங்கி வாழ்வில் மகிழ்ச்சியை கூட்டிக் கொள்ள முடியும்

சவால்களை சந்திக்கும் ஆர்வமும், மாற்றத்தை மகிழ்ச்சியோடு வரவேற்கும் திறந்த மனமும் வாழ்க்கையயும் அது தரும் வாய்ப்புகளையும் ரசிக்கும் மனநிலையும், ருசிக்கும் மனோபாவமும் உள்ளவர்களுக்கு என்.எல்.பி பல விஷயங்களை அள்ளித்தரும்.

Qualities of a cousellor

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The potential to be a good cousellor  can be shown if certain qualities exist- bad-interview-main

Judgment

A good counselor is someone who can learn not to make judgments on behalf of the person being helped. Although counsellors have their own values, these should not be imposed on the client – and the counsellor must retain the ability to listen to and accept the views of clients with other standards.

Patience and Acceptance

A counselor rarely needs to use his or her self control in dealing with people, even those people who are not likeable.

Experience

Learning to grow into a more complete person from the experience of life’s hard knocks can be a valuable quality in a counselor.

Education

Formal degrees in psychology do not necessarily make good counsellors, but a common sense approach is not sufficient. Good counsellors are willing and able to learn about themselves and other people too.

Social Skills

It is not enough to be considered to be a good listener. Counselors learn through training how to perceive all aspects of verbal and non-verbal communication, and deliberately improve their listening skills by using appropriate techniques during counselling.

Genuineness and Warmth

Effective counsellors have a genuine interest in other people. This is often referred to as respect or unconditional positive regard for the person being helped. People who do not need others in their lives may find this sort of warmth to unknown people as being problematic.

Discretion

Counselors must show complete discretion, never revealing what others say or do within the counselling context. Confidentiality is paramount in counseling relationships.

Practice, Practice, Practice

Counseling requires a lot of training, followed by much practice. A current job that will allow the possibility of a helping role could be very useful to begin with.

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AFFIRMATIONS FOR ABUNDANCE

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DYNAMIC LAWS OF PROSPERITY by CATHERINE PONDER

AFFIRMATIONS FOR ABUNDANCE

  1. I give thanks that I am the ever renewing, the ever folding expressions of infinite life, health & energy.
  2. Let  there be peace within my walls and prosperity within my palace
  3. Every day in every way I am growing richer & richer
  4. I give thanks that I am now rich, well and happy and that my financial affairs are in divine order
  5. MONEY MONEY MONEY- manifest thyself in rich abundance
  6. I have faith that all that is mine by Divine Right now comes to me in rich abundance
  7. I am now activated by Divine Love and guided by Divine Power into my right work which I perform in a perfect way for a perfect pay
  8. Divine Intelligence is in charge of my life. I am now open receptive and obedient to its rich instruction and guidance
  9. Nothing but good can come into my life for God is in charge of my life
  10. Divine Intuition is now showing me the way; Divine Intuition is now working in and through me; Divine intuition is working in and through all concerned producing easily and quickly the perfect outcome, the perfect result.
  11. I can do all things through God who strengthens me. I am strong in the LORD and in the power of HIS might. The perfect result now appears.
  12. There is a divine solution to this situation; the divine solution is the sublime solution. I give thanks that the divine solution quickly appears now.
  13. I give thanks for the divine restoration in my business affairs.
  14. I now give thanks that every financial obligation is now being met in God’s own wise and wonderful way.
  15. I expect lavish abundance every day in every way in my life and affairs. I specifically expect and give thanks for lavish abundance today.
  16. I am now and receptive to rich Divine  ideas that perfectly initiate and sustain my business
  17. All the financial doors are open; all financial channels are free and endless bounty comes to me.
  18. Everything and everybody prosper me now; I prosper everything everybody now.
  19. My words are charged with prospering power.
  20. I am divinely equipped to accomplish great things in life with ease.

 

21 Effective Quotes of Swami Vivekananda

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21 Effective Quotations of Swami Vivekananda

 

1. If the mind is intensely eager, everything can be accomplished—mountains can be crumbled into atoms.

2. Take up one idea. Make that one idea your life – think of it, dream of it, and live on idea. Let the brain, muscles, nerves, every part of your body, be full of that idea, and just leave every other idea alone. This is the way to success.

3. Come out into the universe of Light. Everything in the universe is yours, stretch out your arms and embrace it with love. If you every felt you wanted to do that, you have felt God.

4. All knowledge that the world has ever received comes from the mind; the infinite library of the universe is in our own mind.

5. Stand up, be bold, and be strong. Take the whole responsibility on your own shoulders, and know that you are the creator of your own destiny. All the strength and succor you want is within you. Therefore make your own future.

6. There is no help for you outside of yourself; you are the creator of the universe. Like the silkworm you have built a cocoon around yourself…. Burst your own cocoon and come out aw the beautiful butterfly, as the free soul. Then alone you will see Truth.

7. It is our own mental attitude which makes the world what it is for us. Our thought make things beautiful, our thoughts make things ugly. The whole world is in our own minds. Learn to see things in the proper light. First, believe in this world, that there is meaning behind everything. Everything in the world is good, is holy and beautiful. If you see something evil, think that you do not understand it in the right light. Throw the burden on yourselves!

8. Hold to the idea, “I am not the mind, I see that I am thinking, I am watching my mind act,” and each day the identification of yourself with thoughts and feelings will grow less, until at last you can entirely separate yourself from the mind and actually know it to be apart from yourself.

9. All love is expansion, all selfishness is contraction. Love is therefore the only law of life. He who loves lives, he who is selfish is dying. Therefore love for love’s sake, because it is law of life, just as you breathe to live.

10. Our duty is to encourage everyone in his struggle to live up to his own highest idea, and strive at the same time to make the ideal as near as possible to the Truth.

11. Even the greatest fool can accomplish a task if it were after his or her heart. But the intelligent ones are those who can convert every work into one that suits their taste.

12. Condemn none: if you can stretch out a helping hand, do so. If you cannot, fold your hands, bless your brothers and let them go their own way.

13. Each work has to pass through these stages—ridicule, opposition, and then acceptance. Those who think ahead of their time are sure to be misunderstood.

14. If you think that you are bound, you remain bound; you make your own bondage. If you know that you are free, you are free this moment. This is knowledge, knowledge of freedom. Freedom is the goal of all nature.

15. As long as we believe ourselves to be even the least different from God, fear remains with us; but when we know ourselves to be the One, fear goes; of what can we be afraid?

16. Your Atman is the support of the universe—whose support do you stand in need of? Wait with patience and love and strength. If helpers are not ready now, they will come in time. Why should we be in a hurry? The real working force of all great work is in its almost unperceived beginnings.

17. Learning and wisdom are superfluities, the surface glitter merely, but it is the heart that is the seat of all power. It is not in the brain but in the heart that the Atman, possessed of knowledge, power, and activity, has its seat.

18. Understanding human nature is the highest knowledge, and only by knowing it can we know God? It is also a fact that the knowledge of God is the highest knowledge, and only by knowing God can we understand human nature

19. Purity, patience, and perseverance are the three essentials to success and, above all, love.

20. If you want to have life, you have to die every moment for it. Life and death are only different expressions of the same thing looked at from different standpoints; they are the falling and the rising of the same wave, and the two form one whole.

21. Each soul is potentially divine. The goal is to manifest this divinity within by controlling nature, external and internal. Do this either by work, or worship or psychic control or philosophy – by one or more or all of these and be free.

NLP for SUCCESS

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BUILT-IN GUIDANCE SYSTEM

Every living being has built-in guidance system or goal striving device

The built-in mechanism for animals is limited to finding food, shelter and survival

For man goal to live means more than survival.

Animals have more physical needs. Man has not just physical needs; man has more so of emotional needs; even spiritual needs.

It is this need, longing for this need that makes man reach out to various aspects of life. His quest has resulted in inventions, discoveries, writing poetry, run business, self merchandize, explore new horizons, conduct self development programs, and attend motivational lectures to better one’s personality.

In short, to lead life richer nobler grander, man attempts in every possible way with the best of knowledge and resource available at that time.

SUCCESS INSTINCT

A squirrel does not have to be taught how to gather nuts; nor does iit need to be taught how to store food for winter, even if it is born in a spring season.

A bird need not be taught how to build nest; need not be taught how to navigate and reach for off places; they have no map, no milestone or direction post.

Animals have certain in-built instincts to guide them, to protect them. These can be called SUCCESS INSTINCTS

Animals cannot select goals. Their goals are preset. Their goal is – SELF PRESERVATION & PROCREATION.

Man is not just a social animal. While self preservation & procreation are a potent force for driving life man has far more aspirations in life; far more expectations from life.

Man too has success instinct; Man also is a goal striving mechanism. Man either consciously or unconsciously moves towards a purpose in life.

From the spiritualist point of view – ‘Each soul is potentially divine. The goal of life is to manifest this divinity day by day in an endless progression.

It is this ‘inner living creature’ striving to realize itself is the aim of man is what spiritualist says.
To realize this man attempts in various ways.

What is this SUCCESS INSTINCT?
What is this GOAL STRIVING MECHANISM?
It is to outshine his current stature. It is to outgrow his current stature. It is this endeavor that distinguishes man from other creatures on earth.

Man has a faculty called ‘CREATIVE IMAGINATION’

In that by this very faculty of CREATIVE IMAGINATION man is not only a CREATURE, he is a CREATOR too.

CREATIVE IMAGINATION does not necessarily apply to people recognized as poets, artists, inventors.

A greater degree of it finds expression in them in a regulated or channelized way.  Every human being endowed with this creative imagination designs his life, defines his life, destines his life or destroys his life.

Either he is creature of circumstance or creator of his circumstance. It is this imagination that rules the world.
All that we are is the result of what we have thought’ says The Buddha

‘Our life is what our thoughts make it’ says Marcus Aralius

It is mind that makes or mars life.

Mind is nothing but flow of thoughts. In mind there is always continues flow of thoughts.

We think through what is called MIND CONSTRUCTS as waves it flows.

In fact MIND through flow of thoughts give us cognitive power to man.

Every event every experience anything and everything goes though PRISM–
Perceive
Refer
Interpret
Sensitize
Manipulate

It is here that the entire crux of life lies.

So MIND MANAGEMENT effectively becomes LIFE MANAGEMENT or SELF MANAGEMENT.

For SELF MANAGEMENT, NLP offers excellent tools by which one can tune oneself for optimal performance in profession and personal life.
With this end in mind  course facilitates individuals and organizations to be at best and do give the best.