NLP through stories – Story 31

A man went to a Zen master and expressed that he was a very angry man. 
He wanted to get rid of his anger.

The Master said, ” then I want to see you anger. Can you show me?”
The man said he could not; 
The Master asked him to try to get anger..
The man said he could not get anger, though it was coming on its own.

Master then said,” Man, you are not an angry person. 
If it is a part of your being you will be able to show it at your will. 
You don’t have anger in you. 
You were not born with anger either. 
So first stop identifying your self with anger.” 
and there after took the man through a process of containing anger

Yes anger like any other emotion happens in us as an effect of a cause.
The cause mostly is due to disappointment over not getting what one wants.
NLP says clearly People are not their behavior; man transcends his behavior.
Behavior is something happening in a man;
there are times a man is out of a particular behavior.
Man is separate from his behavior.
If he is separate from his behavior, then is it wise to identify oneself with his behavior?

NLP recommends to separate people from behavior.
NLP recommends to separate intention form behavior
In fact whole of REFRAMING  rests on this founding principle.
Every behavior is a learned behavior;
and so you can learn a behavior.
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