NLP through stories – Story 42

A sculptor started carving two statues of the same model.
One he was making it at his backyard all alone.
The other he was making at the front yard of his house.
His friends acquaintance passers by , whoever dropped in observing the making of a statue started giving suggestions to the sculptor to modify the look size shape of the statue;
one suggested to keep a parrot on the shoulder, an army man suggested to keep a gun, one said of special boot,  a beggar suggested give a bowl,  – each offered ‘valuable’ suggestion.
The sculptor without refusing any suggestion accommodated all the requests & suggestions.
The other statue at the backyard he was making all alone by his own choice & with his own idea.

After finishing both, he kept them for public view.
Everyone praised what the sculptor made all by himself.
The other one made as per the wishes of others was very ugly and everyone detested.

NLP says of Metaprogram, a filter to understand and interpret events.
One of the filters is Frame of reference… Internal reference/ External reference.. 

Internal reference is people relying on their internal feedback, (self evaluation & self understanding) than depending on external feedback;
External reference is relying more on others opinion & approval for your worth & merit.

Though it is a continuum, yet people have preferred way of filtering events, a dominant filter;
we can say innie or outie 

Fact is no two people see the world with same eyes
Hence to rely excessively on others opinions & advice may lead us to go astray,
like the statue kept at front yard becoming ugly and distasteful;
If you rely purely on others opinion it is only a matter of chance for you to get the best.

To rely more on your internal feedback and go by intuition is suggested for excellence in work.
It is inner excellence at work often produces remarkable result.
Listen to yourself; that is where answer to all your life’s problem comes.
People who listen to themselves don’t often come to regret.
Be your guide.
NLP emphasizes that.
You are already your master.
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