NLP through stories — Story 37

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This cap seller story most of us know.
The cap seller takes rest under a tree and dozes off.
The monkeys above each take one cap and
wears it imitating the cap seller who is wearing a cap.


The cap seller wakes up to find that the cap is now stuck with monkeys.
He does not fight with the monkeys.
He understands the psyche of the monkey and so throws his cap into the basket;
seeing this the monkeys also throw the cap into the basket.
Gathering the caps the seller happily goes his way to continue selling.

This story normally said for fun and the thoughtless imitation of monkeys.
Underlying this decision of the cap seller to employ the trick of throwing cap into the basket to retrieve caps from monkeys lies a deeper mind set most welcome and to be imbibed or copied like monkeys copying the seller.
It is the ‘RESOURCEFULNESS’ or RESOURCEFUL STATE of mind by the cap seller despite difficulty based by him.
His life & day’s earning depends on his days sales; yet he does not lose hope when he sees his caps are hijacked by monkeys.
He uses his brain, find an idea and tactfully retrieves his stock.
We can say he was positive even in the face of difficulty;
In NLP it is said to be resourceful state of mind.
NLP gives you resourceful state of mind.
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NLP through stories -story 36

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According to Hindu purana ages before Devas(gods) and Asuras(demons) joined hands to churn NECTAR out of  OCEAN of MILK with snake Vasuki as rope and Mount Meru for churning
Divine Cow Divine Elephant, Divine Horse, and many more came out before finally NECTAR coming out.
The one that came initially was POISON.


On rush of poison was so terrifying that even gods& demons were terrified;
Lord Shiva comes to their rescue and drinks the poison to save the world. 
Parvati Mata holds the neck of Lord Shiva and prevents poison entering into Lord Shiva’s stomach; so the neck of Lord Shiva turns blue, hence HE is called as NEELAKANTA, blue-throated lord.

The moral that we must bear in mind here is though the purpose was to extract nectar what came initially was POISON; it was Lord Shiva who rescued them; also Devas & Asuras were knowing what a Nectar was, they did not mistake poison to be nectar, which means they were aware of how a poison would be.

The lesson here in life when we embark on a mission, initially we may have to face opposition& resistance, not necessarily encouragement.
We must be ready like Lord Shiva to gulp down resistance, lest we may be swayed from purpose.
Also we must know what the outcome is, how to identify the outcome, what eveidence we have to know it is outcome.
Equally & much more even, we must be outcome oriented , meaning we must bear in mind the purpose of a process; only then when distractions come in between we will stay on purpose even when when we are busy with process.
NLP is outcome oriented; (for what purpose?)   
NLP also advocates on feedback (what sensory inputs you get as evidence)

Be ready for challenges on your road to Success wealth Prosperity.
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NLP through stories – Story 35

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Punishment or stick ?
Rabindranath Tagore was attending a meeting of the teachers. After discussion on trends & qualities of literature, Rabindranath suddenly addressed a person, ” Nepal Babu, you have become forgetful these days. So I shall give you ‘dand’ 
Nepal Babu was perplexed  and the gathering also could not comprehend the outburst of the poet. 
At that time Tagore took out a stick & gave it to Nepal with this remark,” you had forgotten this stick at my place yesterday. So please take your stick. 
It was the that people assembled there understood Tagore’s joke. 
‘DAND’ means PUNISHMENT as well STICK.. 

It is pun, right???
In a sense NLP employs this pun appropriately as conversational reframing;
conversational reframing is done to shift the focus or perception of the subject by a twist. 
Sleight of Mouth pattern in NLP helps subjects get out of stuck state and
empowers them by surprisingly providing a new meaning to the same context.
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NLP through stories – story 34

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A woman went to meet her friend at her residence. 
She was introduced to the daughter of her friend.
This woman commented to the daughter, ” You look like 8th standard student, though you study now 5th standard only; why don’t you take up sports and participate in competition; surely you will win prizes”
Thereafter she spoke to her friend and left from there.
 A few months later, this woman got a call from her friend. The friend said,” Thanks for encouraging my daughter; she indeed participated in sports and has got prizes”
This woman was very happy, yet could not make out the background,” I dont remember to have particularly encouraged your daughter”
Her friend said,” Remember months before you came home; engaged in a conversation with my daughter, that time you suggested to her to involve in sports. She was feeling low about herself, But your words triggered the spirit in her; she started taking interest in studies & school activities; now she has won prize”   

The moral of the story is even innocent remark of good words
have electrifying effect on right thinking well meaning people.
The woman was not even aware of having encouraged the ‘daughter’;
it was more a matter of fact for her to speak well & kindly.
One of the principles of NLP is –
 Every communication either contributes to or contaminates relationship to a lesser of greater degree.

Communication is vital for quality life.
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NLP through srories — story 33

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A man once read in an ancient book about a black stone on a shore of the black sea which could on contact can turn any metal into gold. The stone would be warm to touch. So he went to the Black Sea, and found there a heap of black stones. He was convinced one of these would be the miracle stone.
He picked up a stone felt it on his cheek found it cold and flung into the sea. 
The second stone too was cold and followed the first one into the sea. 
He did this every day for days weeks months years.
Years later he put a stone to his cheek like usual and threw it into the sea, 
only to realize that that was the stone he was looking for.

Alas!
Very sad.
We soon get into habits, get into monotonous thoughtless routine losing sight of the purpose.
Man is more a creature of habit; what gets into habit happens unconsciously. 
90% of our activity every day is unconscious activities;
while definitely unconscious activities save our time & energy,
we must also bear in mind what we feed into unconscious mind.
We lose our awareness in our mechanical routine.
Prudence lies in being aware of what is going on inside and outside .
A little of awareness would have saved years of labor.
NLP advises to be aware of sensory acuity  and the feed back we get.
NLP advises to increase our awareness more & more.
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NLP thorugh stories- story 32

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Needless to mention the special wisdom of Socrates.
He was also known for his simplicity & austerity in life.
Socrates was very appreciative of the spiritual wisdom of Hindu sages.
Though Socrates was simple,
he had a fascination to visit market place and
spend time in window shopping.
His friend once asked him
why spent so much of time gazing at products he never bought.
Socrates said with a smile,
“I like to spend time here.
Coming here I realize how happy I am,
even though I don’t have these products in my life “
Is it strange ?
Not really. Human we are and we tend to think to have pleasure by having
something. So we tend to drive for something and possess to derive pleasure,
only to realize that something else has more pleasure in it than what we have
on hand.
The point here is from NLP angle
it is the meaning what we give to events
is what makes sense to us, nothing less nothing more. It is our interpretation
that gives meaning
Like Shakespeare said, “Nothing
is good or bad; our thinking makes it so” 
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NLP through stories – Story 31

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A man went to a Zen master and expressed that he was a very angry man. 
He wanted to get rid of his anger.

The Master said, ” then I want to see you anger. Can you show me?”
The man said he could not; 
The Master asked him to try to get anger..
The man said he could not get anger, though it was coming on its own.

Master then said,” Man, you are not an angry person. 
If it is a part of your being you will be able to show it at your will. 
You don’t have anger in you. 
You were not born with anger either. 
So first stop identifying your self with anger.” 
and there after took the man through a process of containing anger

Yes anger like any other emotion happens in us as an effect of a cause.
The cause mostly is due to disappointment over not getting what one wants.
NLP says clearly People are not their behavior; man transcends his behavior.
Behavior is something happening in a man;
there are times a man is out of a particular behavior.
Man is separate from his behavior.
If he is separate from his behavior, then is it wise to identify oneself with his behavior?

NLP recommends to separate people from behavior.
NLP recommends to separate intention form behavior
In fact whole of REFRAMING  rests on this founding principle.
Every behavior is a learned behavior;
and so you can learn a behavior.
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NLP through stories – Story 30

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A girl student in a school said with disgust, 
” I am just 6 years now; another 10 more years to spend here in the same school; I hate it”

The teacher said, 
” You are lucky; You can get released in 10 years. 
I am a teacher here; I have to keep coming here till my retirement”

Nothing is good or bad other than the meaning we give to it.
You can see the blessing of this student in comparison with the teacher from the angle of coming to school.

What appears as problem may be taken as a blessing if you expand the frame of reference or change your frame or reference.

This is called as MEANING REFRAMING in NLP;
Meaning reframing is done to release us from stuck state or disempowered state.
In other words looking at ‘brighter side’ 

Should one necessarily reframe every difficult situation??
Not necessary;
where as in practice if you reframe you feel empowered.
NLP helps to be empowered.
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NLP through stories – story 29

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A king with his troop was going for hunting and he lost his way.
He & his troop were very tired exhausted;
they were looking for a space to relax.
Suddenly they heard a man from a tree shouting out,
” O wise king !! I am grateful to you for being my guest. Please come over here.
I shall feed you all and serve you..”
His voice was very sweet and kind; so the King was very pleased and reached the tree.
The man alighted from tree and started staring at the king.
Then he shouted at the kind with unkindly words.
The minister got angry and was about to behead the man.
The king stopped the minister and started moving away. 
The man in the forest again climbed the tree and sat on it.
He realised King was moving away & so shouted, “
“O king ! benefactor of whole kingdom !! Bear with my folly.
I am here to serve you; please come”

The king was really surprised over the alternating stance of this man.
He sent the minister near the man to enquire.
The minister neared the tree; by then the man got down from the tree and approached the minister..
once he was away from the tree, again he started abusing the king minister.

Noticing this the King got a clue of the dual behavior of this man;
when he was on tree the man was noble kind and warm;
away from tree he was intemperate.  

The king instructed the minister to gather details about the tree.
Upon serious enquiry the minister came to know that 
in the very place where the tree was, the throne of King Vikramadiya was buried..
hence by the influence of fair & just practice of the King though dead long back, 
the throne carried the same vibration and kept influencing people in its range.     
Therefore the man when on the tree was kind &
away from the tree his original nature of being unkind  surfaced.

Here we clearly find that the man in the forest has his state of mind changed.
Especially his state of mind changes according to the location he occupies.
The tree infuses in him ‘positive’ state of mind;
away from it he gets ‘negative’ state of mind

NLP also talks of the possibility of infusing ‘positive’ state of mind by a process called
CIRCLE OF EXCELLENCE..
Moving into the circle you can become ‘RESOURCEFUL’   and accomplish what you want to accomplish in a situation where otherwise you may feel dis-empowered.
Circle oF excellence is a wonderful way to gain RESOURCE from within and be effective,
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NLP through stories -story 28

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Akbar once called Birbal and said,” Birbal ! It is strange to read in your Hindu Holy book that Lord Vishnu hearing the agonizing cry of an elephant rushed to his aid. Why would a God with so many servants at His disposal himself rush to the succor of the elephant?

Birbal replied. ” Your Majesty, please give me 2 days time to answer your question “
Akbar granted him the request apparently with a pride to have humbled Birbal.


Birbal arranged to make a wax model of Emperor’s grandson and dressed the wax model in grandson’s clothes.
He then ordered a servant to carry the doll where Emperor could see him & pretended to fall and drop the doll into the pond with a cry drawing Emperor’s attention.
The servant did so. 
When the Emperor heard the cry and saw his grandson fall into the pond, Emperor himself jumped into the pond & rescued ‘grandson’ 
Birbal now came out of a bush and asked ” Your Majesty !! when you have so many servants, why you jumped in to the pond to save your grandson?? that too this is only a wax model..???”
It is for the same reason like yours, for Lord Vishnu every creature is precious”

Akbar understood his folly in having questioned the wisdom of Hindu’s God.  

Everyone understand only with reference to their ‘conditioning’ & belief .
Everyone perceives world differently in unique ways.
To make them understand ‘truth’  we must enter into their map & explain, for them to understand better.
Otherwise every word means different things to different people.
Also every context is inferred in one’s own unique ways. 
In order to persuade or influence or make the person understand it is important to understand their map of reality and present an idea matching their map.
Whatever be the explanation Birbal would have given earlier, Akbar would not have bought it.
When Birbal demonstrated in the way Akbar would understand, the job got done.
One of the beliefs of NLP is “People respond only to their map of reality”
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