NLP through stories – story 51

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The proponent of Theory of Evolution Charles Darwin was once insulted by a critic.
The critic said, ” Darwin! you say mankind evolved from monkey race.
“What a great thing your own face is a proof of your theory!”


Darwin said, ” true; I am very proud that I am the very proof to substantiate my own theory” 

See how effectively Darwin changed an adverse comment into a favorable one.
Darwin conveniently changed the frame of reference;
thus a criticism has become a compliment .

This is said as RE-FRAMING  in NLP.

Reframing helps us to move from a dis-empowering state to an empowering state of mind.
Nothing is good or bad except the meaning we give to it.
Change the meaning of a situation; you automatically change your response to the situation.
Success in life depends on how responsive we are to life situations.
Reframimg helps you to be appropriately responsive & succeed in life.
NLP trains you to reframe.
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NLP through stories – story 50

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A king once wanted to weigh his royal elephant.
Yet could not do because no weighing machine was available.
Though he sought the advice of wise counsels  none could offer a solution.
A young boy came to know of the desire of the king & said he could show a way. 
He was taken to the king.
The boy gave his idea – 
‘First put the elephant in a boat in a water tank. 
Due to weight the boat will sink. 
Mark the water level on the wall of the boat . 
Then alight the elephant..
Now start filling the boat with bricks till the boat sinks upto the mark .
Thereafter take the bricks & weigh conveniently. 
The total weight will be the weight of the elephant.”
The king was amazed.at the brilliance of the boy.  

The learning from the story is ‘even a mammoth task can be accomplished 
if made into convenient components. 
There is also a saying on  elephant — “how to eat an elephant?  A bite at a time”
This bit sized approach is called CHUNKING in NLP 
When you chunk down you are able to be more & more specific to deal with the situation.
Difficulties when you chunk down diminishes.
Positives when you chunk down intensifies. 
Also chunking up helps to you to collaborate with people. 
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NLP through stories – story 49

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Thousands of years ago on a battlefield of Kurushethra  in India, Arjuna, the young warrior prince of
the Pandavas, is leading his army in a great  war against Kauravas, who have unjustly
usurped his kingdom. 
As the forces gather on the eve of the ultimate battle, he
rides out with his charioteer, the god Krishna, to survey the enemy. 
There in
the middle of the battlefield he sees
that the Kaurava’s army arrayed against him includes his own relatives,
teachers, friends, and loved ones.

Suddenly overcome with self-doubt and confusion, he calls
out to Krishna to stop his chariot, saying he is unable to fight.

Krishna does all his best to convince Arjuna to fight, the
result of which is the song celestial called   ‘Srimad
 Bagavad Gita’ ,   in 18
chapters, 700 stanza ,

Arjuna says, “Krishna ! Whatever you say I understand; yet
my heart is not convinced; my mind does not get the strength “

Sri Krishna then takes his ‘VISWAROOPA’  -turns himself into a vision of magnificence
and power beyond imagining.  Seeing
this magnificence Arjuna  gets convinced and
agrees to fight.
The learning from this event is that Arjuna gets his dilemma after ‘seeing’  the army of enemies; 
equally Arjuna gets convinced after seeing the magnificence & power of Sri Krishna; 
even after ‘hearing‘ Sri krishna’s wise suggestion Arjuna gets ‘feeling’ only after seeing.

Some prefer to see to understand ( V)
some prefer to hear to understand (A)
some prefer to experience or feel to understand (K)

We each have a preferred representational system.
For some of us it is visual, (V)
for others it is kinesthetic (K), and
for others it is auditory. (A)

In order to make some one understand better,
if we can present the matter in their preferred mode,
the job is done easily . 

V-A-K  is Value Adding Knowledge
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NLP through stories — story 48

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A very old lady looked in the mirror one morning. 
She had three remaining hairs on her head, and being a positive soul, 
she said, “I think I’ll braid my hair today.” 
So she braided her three hairs, and she had a great day. 

Some days later, looking in the mirror one morning, preparing for her day, 
she saw that she had only two hairs remaining.
 “Hmm, two hairs… I fancy a centre parting today.” 
She duly parted her two hairs, and as ever, she had a great day.

A week or so later, she saw that she had just one hair left on her head.
“One hair huh…,” she mused, “I know, a pony-tail will be perfect.” 
And again she had a great day. 
The next morning she looked in the mirror. 
She was completely bald. 
“Finally bald huh,” she said to herself, 
“How wonderful! I won’t have to waste time doing my hair any more..”

The story talks of attitude; it is very apparent. yes positive attitude.
NLP says “it is not what happens in life but what you do with what happens that makes the difference’.
NLP talks of state management.
To be in resourceful state of mind is important to make the best out of any situation.
Our response to life situation is based on the meaning we give to every situation.
If we give a ‘positive’ meaning then we exhibit a positive response;
we regain & remain in an empowering state of mind.
One way of giving  ‘positive’ meaning is REFRAMING ..
meaning reframing empowers us in spite of apparent disappointments.
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NLP through stories -story 47

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A king went to a spiritual guru and placed before him in a bundle all his property and
pleaded he was shown the way to ANANDHA ( joy peace ) in lieu of his property.
The guru all of  sudden grabbed the bag and started running away from the scene.
The  king was shocked by the strange behavior of the guru;
he mistook the guru for an ordinary man and felt bad he approached a fake guru..
The king started chasing the guru and was keen on getting the bag back. 
but the guru gave a tough time to the king; the king could not catch the guru.
Tired exhausted he was about to give up with a great discontent,
when the guru stopped   and handed over the bag to the king;
Receiving the bag, the king felt relieved of worry and felt extremely happy.
Now the guru said, ” you have your ANANDHA now ?” 
The king said, ” yes” 

The great lesson from the story is very obvious. 
The joy was already with the king;
he did not know how to realize that;
he wanted to trade for joy happiness  & peace.    


The guru made him realize that by a process apparently misleading or confusing,
yet gave what the king was looking for.

Equally NLP says “People already have all the resources they need”
NLP helps you to realize that by a process that may appear to be ‘illogical’ crazy funny.
yet if one goes by the process one can surely get.
VRnlp makes it happen
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Real asset

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Kanyakumari-3660_4உடையர் எனப்படுவது ஊக்கம்; அஃதிலார்
உடையது  உடையறோ மற்று.
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பொருள் :
ஒருவனுடைய சொத்து எனக் கருதத் தக்கது அவனின் உள்ள ஊக்கமே ஆகும்;
ஊக்கம் இல்லாதவன் வேறு எதை சொத்தாகப் பெற்றிருந்தாலும் அவைகள் பயனற்று போகும்.

Meaning of this KURAL :
The real asset for a man is his enthusiasm; whatever else he possesses sans enthusiasm is not so very useful.

 

IMPOSSIBLE is POSSIBLE

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The much abused word in motivational messages or thoughts is
IMPOSSIBLE.

Often repeated statement is
“NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE”.
“IMpossible – I(a) M POSSIBLE”

This is repeated or stated as an institutionalized slogan than an inspired truth;

Feeling thrilled over a mere intellectual acknowledgement of ‘nothing is impossible’ and repeating  it like a parrot seems a bit odd; sometimes irritating too.

There seems to be a delusion over this word;
and a feeling of guilt is inadvertently planted in mind’s of people that
to say impossible is wrong, nay a crime.

This is far from truth.

It is not wrong to acknowledge and accept a few as impossible.
It is not wrong to admit something is impossible according to you.
There is no need for everything to become possible in your life.
Even what you want to have and that seems impossible at that time, it is ok to acknowledge and carefully weigh the ways of making it happen than rushing to get hyped(deluded) by any motivational methods .

I don’t accept NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE.
Nothing is possible
I am doing NOTHING many a times.

NLP through stories – story 46

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Once upon a time a foolish brahmin came to visit
Birbal with a strange request.
He wanted to be addressed as ‘pandit’.

Now, the term ‘pandit’ refers to a man of learning.
But unfortunately
this poor brahmin was uneducated.
Birbal tried to explain the difference
to him saying that it was not correct to call an uneducated man a
pandit and because of this very reason it would be improper to call him
so.
But the silly brahmin had his heart set on this title.
So, as
usual, Birbal had a brilliant idea.
He said that as the brahmin was an
uneducated man he should hurl abuses and stones at anyone who dared to
address him by the very same title he wanted.
Then Birbal called all his
servants to himself and ordered them to call this lowly brahmin a
pandit.
The brahmin was very pleased.
But the moment the servants
started calling out to him as ‘pandit’ 
he pretended to be very angry and
started to abuse them loudly.
Then he picked up a few stones and hurled
them in their direction.
All as per clever Birbal’s advice.
All this shouting and screaming drew a crowd.
When
people realised that this brahmin was erupting every time anyone called
him ‘pandit’, 
they all started to tease him.
Over the next couple of
days, he would constantly hear  ‘pandit’ wherever he went.

Very soon the whole town started referring to him as ‘pandit’ much to
his delight.
The foolish brahmin never realised why people were
calling him in this manner.
And was extremely pleased with the result. 
This Pandit thanked Birbal from the very bottom of his foolish heart. 

What you resist always persist.
The more you are conscious of what you don’t want, the more it appears to be present.
Nature abhors vacuum; 
So the more you pay attention to what you dont want, the more strongly it stays with you;
whereas if you can start focusing on what you want then will start moving towards you, to stay with you. 

‘The easiest way to kill a foe is to make him a friend’ ( unknown)


According to the principle of NLP, ” Everything has a purpose/ meaning for its existence’
Even our so called ‘negative’ has a purpose to fulfill, a positive intention; 
if one can, you know, acknowledge its presence with open mind, understand the positive intention and manipulate accordingly, then it becomes easy to modify behavior.

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NLP through stories – Story 45

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This story is widely known.
A father was very worried over quarreling sons. 
Almost all his attempts to make them realize the importance of unity failed.
He was nearing death; 
He called all his sons;
He gave them each a stick and asked them to break it; they broke easily;
then he asked them to bundle the sticks.
And he asked them to break the sticks in the bundle;
The sons could not break however hard they tried.

This story is narrated to explain the power of togetherness;
unity is strength .
Wonderful yes..

Yet I draw another lesson from this story.

Any new habit or behavior –  if it is nurtured on a regular basis it can become a part of your nature..
Power of consistency.
This process of conditioning is well explained by this story.
How?
Like in the story, a single stick – it gets easily broken; same way any new learning or skill or behavior if done only once like the single stick breaks away from our system easily.
If every day we practice it is akin to tying one stick everyday to the bundle;
in about 21 days, like the bundle of sticks cannot be broken easily and the sticks stay safe together, this new behavior stays with the individual safely.
Stick to the practice regularly;
What you  nurture becomes your nature.
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NLP through stories – Story 44

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A stag while drinking water saw his own reflection and mused,” What splendid horns I have! So sturdy, yet so graceful; these would certainly save my life’s combats. But my legs… how spindly and thin they look! It’s a wonder they are able to carry my weight.”
 At that time some huntsmen with a pack of hounds appeared and the stag started running for life.
So long as the plain was free of trees he kept running giving a good distance ahead; his legs carried him ahead.
But when he came to woody place his horns got entangled in the overhead branches, and unable to move further he was caught.
In the last moment he thought, ” How foolish I was; things that I doubted & despised saved me, while those which I trusted and admired have brought  about my end.”
Well,  all that glitters is not gold; appearance is deceptive, …. whatever interpretation.. one can give for this story.
According NLP everything is useful in its context; 
each must be evaluated in its context
NLP advocates non-judgemental approach;
‘nothing to compare, nothing to compete’
Get to know the context of any behavior or communication and 
understand the best intention though you may not approve the behavior apparently. 
Every thing is context specific; 
it is the context that decides the appropriateness or inappropriateness.