Archive for month: December, 2013

Two boys, brothers, were very naughty & pranks. 
They had the habit of flicking away recklessly.
Any amount of advice punishment had no effect on them.
They continued to be as they were. 
The parents became impatient and hopeless.
They heard of a church priest who had the knack of dealing with difficult people and bringing them around.


The parents took the boys to the priest.
The priest started his intervention.
“Boys, Do you know where God is?”


Upon hearing this, one boy alarmed the other,
“Come on, Run now & escape
God is missing & the priest suspect us”

This is ‘CONDITIONING’
Even though the priest wanted to advice them of a good manner,
the very question triggered to the boys in their mind of the conditioning so far that they were ‘lifters’ and inadvertently they thought they were mistaken.

We also in life do like this on accasions based on our conditioning.
In the heat of the moment we most of the time  respond based on conditioning than intellectual calculation.
Hence NLP suggests to you to ‘PROGRAM’ your mind to modify behavior appropriately.
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A man was dying from a poisoned arrow.
His relatives rushed  a doctor to his side. 
But he refused to have his arrow removed unless
he had the answers to a few questions.
1. was the man who shot him white or black?
2. was he a native or a foreigner?
3. was he tall or short?
4. what language he spoke?
5. By what vehicle he escaped?


He was adamant that the could not be removed; and so he died.

Very unfortunate isn’t it?

Like this man inappropriately intelligent or inquisitive, 
some are vainly analytical about issues & prove to be impractical idiots;
Ability to question the existing system,
ability to analyze the pros & cons of an issue,
ability to gain greater understanding of an issue by seeing many sides is welcome.
At the same time it must lead you to an appropriate benefit befitting the context.

That is why NLP does not believe in ‘fixing the client’
NLP does not unnecessarily analyze the problem of the subject; does not work with the content;
NLP takes the subject through a process to the desired outcome.
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A man approached a Zen master & requested him to be accepted as Guru.
Master refused. The man insisted on the ground that he was already trained by various masters. He said he had come for furthering his knowledge.


Zen master replied he was not the right guru for him. Still the man insisted.


The Guru then said,” Ok now go to the next room; take the bucket there; and draw water from the well.”


The man felt insulted initially, “I have come for knowledge; he gives this menial job for me ?” with  this thinking he took the bucket; to his shock he found the bucket had no base.


He rushed to the master,” Master, the bucket has no base; how can I draw water?” he questioned with impatience & irritation.

Master said in a measured tone,” That’s why I said I cant be your guru. If you want to learn from me, you need to have trust & humility. If you keep on evaluating what I tell you, learning cannot take place.” 


Moral of the story is very simple & evident. One needs to have absolute trust in the process to attain an outcome; meddling with doubt & disbelief in the middle is counter productive.
When it comes to learning & benefiting from NLP one must have absolute trust in the process;
I would say surrender to the process only then you can gain from NLP.
NLP means Never Lose Patience.
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Akbar consulted an astrologer and enquired on the well being of his life and near & dear.
The astrolger after carefully examining the planetary position said with reluctance, ” Maharaj ! Your close relatives will leave this world before your eyes”
Akbar was upset & angry. He expressed his displeasure over the prediction.
He refused to believe the astrologer.
The astrologer also pleaded on the accuracy of his prediction and clarified that he was only stating what the planets indicated.
Akbar ordered the astrologer to move away from his sight.
Feeling sad the astrologer reported to Birbal; 
He promised the astrologer he would set right.
Birbal went straight to meet Akbar and enquired why Akbar was sad.
Akbar narrated the prediction.
Birbal said immediately,” No No astrologer has made some mistake in his calculation; let me analyze now; please give me your horoscope”
Akbar handed over; Birbal spent sometime with the horoscope and said with an exclamation & excitement on the face, ” What a blessed life you have Maharaj!  God has given you the privilege of taking care of your near & dear all through out their life” 
Akbar was very pleased and gave gifts to Birbal.

The moral of the story here is very evident.
The fact has not changed; only the presentation has been modified to suit the belief system of Akbar.
It is not enough how appropriate you are; how you are appropriate is more important.
one of the principles of NLP is A person with flexibility gains control over the situation
If you dont get the desired resuly in one way, then change the way you present it to get the desired outcome, like Akbar was given the fact in an acceptable way.

A young couple won a prize in a weekly magazine and were interviewed by a correspondent.
“How long have you been married?” reporter asked.
“Two & half years now” replied the husband.
”no no three years it is fast approaching” quickly corrected his wife.
“It doesn’t matter much” said the correspondent 
“How can you say? It does matter to me; I am already demanding a necklace for the 3rd anniversary” retorted the wife.

People have their own agenda. People understand & respond based on their conviction convenience & expectation.
In the interaction with people an intelligent approach NLP advises is to ask questions for what purpose they say so. Instead of jumping to conclusion understanding their beliefs && expectations can help to interact initiate lead and form a workable relationship or a better equation.
The belief of NLP here is “PEOPLE RESPOND TO THEIR MAP ONLY”   
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