NLP through stories -Story 52

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A man after visiting Malaysia returned to India. 
He wanted to build a beautiful house.
He invited architectural drawing. 
He was not satisfied with the plan & rejected.
The architect was disappointed though she gave a wonderful design.
Likewise the man rejected every plan presented to him by many architects.
None could satisfy this man.
Coming to know of this episode an architect appraoched this man & promised he would be able to satisfy his need. The architect asked this man one simple question, “How do you want the design to be? anything specific you want too say?”


The man said,” Thank God you asked me; you see I have bought a wonderful door knob in Malaysia; I want this to be fit into a door; no architect showed a door in his drawing. no architect could design a house where my door knob can be fit in”  

The architect said, ” Give me two hours; I will give you the design”
The architect took a drawing from the man & added a door with knob in the design .
Now he produced this new design to the man;
The man was thrilled. 

NLP the science of excellence works towards specifics
NLP suggests a person to move towards specific outcome;
NLP suggests to understand the need of the subject by engaging in dialogue
NLP suggests to understand the map of a person

To go by the suggestion of NLP if the unsuccessful architects had enquired what the man had in mind; what he expected, the job would have become easier.

One architect was successful in asking precisely & understood the need and fulfilled appropriately.

The NLP presupposition is “People respond to their map”      

Know the map & navigate aptly.
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NLP -Instant Pattern break

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NLP -Thought Pattern -Instant Break

I have heard people complain that their mind is trespassed by unwanted thoughts and they feel upset about. They say they are helplessly imprisoned by thought patterns..
Some feel upset or anguished at times and see no way of getting out of it at that time.

You must have heard people say or you could have experienced this situation, like, an important client meeting ; you are well prepared yet at that time a mild or perceptible  anxiety or fear passing through you and also you wish you get out of it somehow.

·         Lub-dub before an audience
·         Flutter when entering boss cabin
·         Anxiety over delay of expectation
·         Upset feeling hearing a disappointment
·         Teasing memory of an unpleasant event
·         Compulsive seeking of  unwanted
·         Any kind of inappropriate thinking you want to get out

Will power does not come to rescue at times crisis.

It is our habitual response pattern that holds us sway at those critical moments..

Unconscious patterns are often deep rooted and easily influence behavior; they have a power over reasoning or rational choice.

The usual methods of contemplation & correction do not come handy at times of crisis need of alternate emotion or state of mind.

Is there a way out to quickly gain the required state of mind?
Yes.
NLP, the Psychology of personal change & excellence offers an effective tool to gain the state of mind you want;
you can easily push out the unwanted thinking and protect yourself from getting teased time & again

It is a very powerful tool to instantly break the unwanted thought pattern and establish the needed frame of mind or mind set.

It is instant just in 20 seconds you can shift your mood

It is also very handy to do.

You don’t require any special place or pose or position to do this.

All you need is your palms and the use of your palms.

Here is the 4 Step pattern

Suppose you are slightly anxious and you want to be calm, here is how you do

Step 1: (seeing your palms say within) I SEE my palms

Step 2: (Rubbing your palms swiftly) I HEAR my palms rubbing

Step 3: (Feeling the heat generated) I FEEL the heat in my palms

Step 4:  (4th step you put forth what you want) I am now CALM & RELAXED

You will be amazed to find that you get the needed state of mind instantly.

These 4 steps must be done in the order mentioned here for benefit.

How long should one do?
As long as one wants it;
as often as needed;

4th statement is the needed state; you must specifically mention what you need.( not what you don’t need)

Keep doing this whenever you need to break current thinking pattern.

This tool is handy & very effective.

Best Wishes !

AFFIRMATIONS for various occasions

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AFFIRMATIONS COINED BY ME ON VARIOUS OCCASIONS

  • I possess supreme confidence that provides me best opportunities in life.
  • I unleash the forces of my mind; I release creative imagination and aim for the highest.
  • I am capable of dealing with the present and well prepared for the future.
  • I become the shaper of my mind, my beliefs, and my life.
  • I confidently expect to attain my life’s goals.
  • I fill my subconscious mind with mental picture of success;
    my subconscious mind fills my life with success.
  • Day by day in every way I am becoming a positive person and a prosperous person.
  • I well manage people
  • I well manage problem
  • I well manage life
  • I well manage myself
  • I apply imaging concept steadily and systematically; it solves my problems, strengthens my personality, improves my health and greatly enhances the chances of success in any kind of endeavor.
  • I have the necessary inner drive to take me forward.
  • I have deep seated belief in my inner worth.
  • I enjoy the fruits of my labor.
  • I take conscious effort to upgrade the quality of my life.
  • I use constructive self talk every day.
  • I take right decision.
  • I am well within my time and can make up.
  • I am brisk bright & charming.
  • Every speech every word every movement is precise and certain.
  • I radiate confidence.
  • I am assertive in behavior.
  • I always have a sense of achievement.
  • I have vigor endurance & extra-ordinary energy.
  • I can; I do; I accomplish.
  • I greet every day, every new day with a firm commitment to raising my confidence.
  • I do whatever that is required to become more confident.
  • I can do all things through God who strengthens me.
  • I demonstrate my brilliance at spotting opportunities for growth.
  • I am highly motivated to look for opportunities.
  • I meet every day with a firm commitment to raising my standard.
  • The power to shape my future is within me.
  • My sub conscious mind reveals my future.
  • The answers to my questions are in my subconscious mind.
  • I look within & get the answers.
  • Every tissue, every vein, every blood vessel, every atom of my body is filled with a special knowledge of self development.
  • My future is exciting & my potential for economic success is unlimited.
  • My life is a portrait of a believer, possibility thinker.
  • I am an optimistic person.
  • I am an enthusiastic person.
  • I am enthusiastic about anything that I do.
  • I am a natural goal achiever.
  • I always take care of details.
  • I am open to new ideas.
  • I am dependable.
  • I am blessed with natural talent.
  • I am motivated & inspired.
  • I have the power to organize, power to make things happen, power to generate income.
  • I am calm & firm in all my interactions today.
  • Whoever listens to me realizes his inner worth & feels touched and uplifted.
  • I am decisive determined and ceaselessly energetic.
  • I get all the needed support from right people at the right time in the right way

What makes NLP special?

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NLP is special in the sense it has clearly identified what happens when a man thinks.
NLP has clearly studied the structure of thinking.
In NLP training sessions you are taught how to identify the pattern of thinking.
What happens when you think and how that thinking impacts your behaviour
In NLP course you are taught how you can think better in a way that gets the results you want.
People in NLP training workshops do this by funny creative imagination.
This makes NLP very special.
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NLP through stories – story 51

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The proponent of Theory of Evolution Charles Darwin was once insulted by a critic.
The critic said, ” Darwin! you say mankind evolved from monkey race.
“What a great thing your own face is a proof of your theory!”


Darwin said, ” true; I am very proud that I am the very proof to substantiate my own theory” 

See how effectively Darwin changed an adverse comment into a favorable one.
Darwin conveniently changed the frame of reference;
thus a criticism has become a compliment .

This is said as RE-FRAMING  in NLP.

Reframing helps us to move from a dis-empowering state to an empowering state of mind.
Nothing is good or bad except the meaning we give to it.
Change the meaning of a situation; you automatically change your response to the situation.
Success in life depends on how responsive we are to life situations.
Reframimg helps you to be appropriately responsive & succeed in life.
NLP trains you to reframe.
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NLP through stories – story 50

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A king once wanted to weigh his royal elephant.
Yet could not do because no weighing machine was available.
Though he sought the advice of wise counsels  none could offer a solution.
A young boy came to know of the desire of the king & said he could show a way. 
He was taken to the king.
The boy gave his idea – 
‘First put the elephant in a boat in a water tank. 
Due to weight the boat will sink. 
Mark the water level on the wall of the boat . 
Then alight the elephant..
Now start filling the boat with bricks till the boat sinks upto the mark .
Thereafter take the bricks & weigh conveniently. 
The total weight will be the weight of the elephant.”
The king was amazed.at the brilliance of the boy.  

The learning from the story is ‘even a mammoth task can be accomplished 
if made into convenient components. 
There is also a saying on  elephant — “how to eat an elephant?  A bite at a time”
This bit sized approach is called CHUNKING in NLP 
When you chunk down you are able to be more & more specific to deal with the situation.
Difficulties when you chunk down diminishes.
Positives when you chunk down intensifies. 
Also chunking up helps to you to collaborate with people. 
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NLP through stories – story 49

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Thousands of years ago on a battlefield of Kurushethra  in India, Arjuna, the young warrior prince of
the Pandavas, is leading his army in a great  war against Kauravas, who have unjustly
usurped his kingdom. 
As the forces gather on the eve of the ultimate battle, he
rides out with his charioteer, the god Krishna, to survey the enemy. 
There in
the middle of the battlefield he sees
that the Kaurava’s army arrayed against him includes his own relatives,
teachers, friends, and loved ones.

Suddenly overcome with self-doubt and confusion, he calls
out to Krishna to stop his chariot, saying he is unable to fight.

Krishna does all his best to convince Arjuna to fight, the
result of which is the song celestial called   ‘Srimad
 Bagavad Gita’ ,   in 18
chapters, 700 stanza ,

Arjuna says, “Krishna ! Whatever you say I understand; yet
my heart is not convinced; my mind does not get the strength “

Sri Krishna then takes his ‘VISWAROOPA’  -turns himself into a vision of magnificence
and power beyond imagining.  Seeing
this magnificence Arjuna  gets convinced and
agrees to fight.
The learning from this event is that Arjuna gets his dilemma after ‘seeing’  the army of enemies; 
equally Arjuna gets convinced after seeing the magnificence & power of Sri Krishna; 
even after ‘hearing‘ Sri krishna’s wise suggestion Arjuna gets ‘feeling’ only after seeing.

Some prefer to see to understand ( V)
some prefer to hear to understand (A)
some prefer to experience or feel to understand (K)

We each have a preferred representational system.
For some of us it is visual, (V)
for others it is kinesthetic (K), and
for others it is auditory. (A)

In order to make some one understand better,
if we can present the matter in their preferred mode,
the job is done easily . 

V-A-K  is Value Adding Knowledge
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NLP through stories — story 48

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A very old lady looked in the mirror one morning. 
She had three remaining hairs on her head, and being a positive soul, 
she said, “I think I’ll braid my hair today.” 
So she braided her three hairs, and she had a great day. 

Some days later, looking in the mirror one morning, preparing for her day, 
she saw that she had only two hairs remaining.
 “Hmm, two hairs… I fancy a centre parting today.” 
She duly parted her two hairs, and as ever, she had a great day.

A week or so later, she saw that she had just one hair left on her head.
“One hair huh…,” she mused, “I know, a pony-tail will be perfect.” 
And again she had a great day. 
The next morning she looked in the mirror. 
She was completely bald. 
“Finally bald huh,” she said to herself, 
“How wonderful! I won’t have to waste time doing my hair any more..”

The story talks of attitude; it is very apparent. yes positive attitude.
NLP says “it is not what happens in life but what you do with what happens that makes the difference’.
NLP talks of state management.
To be in resourceful state of mind is important to make the best out of any situation.
Our response to life situation is based on the meaning we give to every situation.
If we give a ‘positive’ meaning then we exhibit a positive response;
we regain & remain in an empowering state of mind.
One way of giving  ‘positive’ meaning is REFRAMING ..
meaning reframing empowers us in spite of apparent disappointments.
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NLP through stories -story 47

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A king went to a spiritual guru and placed before him in a bundle all his property and
pleaded he was shown the way to ANANDHA ( joy peace ) in lieu of his property.
The guru all of  sudden grabbed the bag and started running away from the scene.
The  king was shocked by the strange behavior of the guru;
he mistook the guru for an ordinary man and felt bad he approached a fake guru..
The king started chasing the guru and was keen on getting the bag back. 
but the guru gave a tough time to the king; the king could not catch the guru.
Tired exhausted he was about to give up with a great discontent,
when the guru stopped   and handed over the bag to the king;
Receiving the bag, the king felt relieved of worry and felt extremely happy.
Now the guru said, ” you have your ANANDHA now ?” 
The king said, ” yes” 

The great lesson from the story is very obvious. 
The joy was already with the king;
he did not know how to realize that;
he wanted to trade for joy happiness  & peace.    


The guru made him realize that by a process apparently misleading or confusing,
yet gave what the king was looking for.

Equally NLP says “People already have all the resources they need”
NLP helps you to realize that by a process that may appear to be ‘illogical’ crazy funny.
yet if one goes by the process one can surely get.
VRnlp makes it happen
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Real asset

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Kanyakumari-3660_4உடையர் எனப்படுவது ஊக்கம்; அஃதிலார்
உடையது  உடையறோ மற்று.
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பொருள் :
ஒருவனுடைய சொத்து எனக் கருதத் தக்கது அவனின் உள்ள ஊக்கமே ஆகும்;
ஊக்கம் இல்லாதவன் வேறு எதை சொத்தாகப் பெற்றிருந்தாலும் அவைகள் பயனற்று போகும்.

Meaning of this KURAL :
The real asset for a man is his enthusiasm; whatever else he possesses sans enthusiasm is not so very useful.